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writes:I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 18, about to graduate and join the Navy. We've been going out for 3 months now. We're so happy together, and I catch myself thinking about him all the time. I feel like I'm living in a fog when I'm not with him, and when I am, I can't take my eyes [or hands!] off him. I truly adore him and I think this might be love. (I've never been in love before.) The only reason I'm not sure if it's love or not is that we've only been together for such a short amount of time...can love exist that quickly? I'm still skeptical about real love at my young age, but everything I've read about love applies to how I feel about him. Have any of you fallen in love this fast? I'm also considering telling him that I love him for Christmas (in addition to his gift I got- a CD, Godiva chocolates, and a Navy book.)PS- I had a dream that for Christmas, he proposed to me. The next night I was imagining that in a few years after we're older if he DID propose- I found myself crying in fake happiness, then in sadness realizing that it was just a daydream and probably won't happen. *shrugs*PPS- We're both virgins, and he's the only one I can see myself 'losing it' to and not regretting it later. I asked him if he plans on staying a virgin by the end of high school and he said it depends on his girlfriend's decision--I told him I'd be fine with not being a virgin if my boyfriend and I were truly in love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks...love does feel great! I understand what you mean regarding the whole 'sex' thing...we wouldn't be missing eachother for who we are as people, but for sex, and that's not enough to keep a relationship, especially a long-distance one. Thank you so much!
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reader, daletom +, writes (24 December 2007):
You may be in love. Feels great, doesn't it - knowing that another person shares a mutual adoration for you. In my circle of acquaintances there are several couples who met when they were your age and are still together decades later.But even they will tell you that what you're experiencing is probably not the kind of love that dedicated, committed, life-partners share. Three months is not a relationship to dismiss lightly, but you really need to give it more time to mature. Having sex with your boyfriend now will NOT make him love you more. In fact, it will probably shift the focus of your relationship from each other, growing together, toward just the sex itself. And when you're apart from each other, and unable to relate sexually, there will be less to hold you together.I hope you've found a wonderful person to spend the rest of your life with. That's a LONG TIME, by the way - plenty of time for good sex to happen. Keep building and strengthening your relationship for a while before adding sex to it.
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reader, BA +, writes (24 December 2007):
I have friends who went togeather in high school and are now married 50+ years now.
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reader, jm81690  +, writes (24 December 2007):
 I figure someone can fall in love at 16.I mean back in the day people got married at 16, and some of them stayed happily married right up until their 80's, if that's not love I don't know what is.
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