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writes:Dear Cupid,I'd fallen in love with my cousin since I was 14 years old. I thought that the feeling was just out of curiosity but I still have the same feeling towards him even until now. I thought that this feeling for him will just vanished especially that his family migrated to other country. But Last month he came back to visit his hometown, a sudden turn of events occurred. During his stay, a lot of things happened. 'Though we don't say anything but the feeling was mutual and it's just like rekindling our unfinished past relationship. During this time, we were able to talk more deeply and intimately about our present situation since we both have our individual families now. I love him from the start and that he also feel the same way towards me but things are not the same way as before. Inasmuch as we wanted to push through with this forbidden "love relationship" but we can't compromise our own families now. I broke up with him for the sake of our families but the feeling was still there. I hurts me so much to let him go but I don't have any option. Inside my heart, I cant let go of him. It's been unfair to my family but as of the moment, I'm still mourning for my lost love. (I'd waited for him for almost 20 years and now I'd lost him again). As much as I wanted to forget him, but deep inside me keeps on refreshing my memories of our being together. He said that "we have to set aside our feelings and be wise" but sometimes it's easy to say it than doing it.I just don't know what to do to be fair to everybody. please help me
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes, we both are married now. he was my first (in everything...) but at that time, we never talked about our situation until he left.... and left me hanging, if he also felt the same towards me... And last month, he came back after 16 long years and i thought i had already move on and forget everything what had happened to us. But it proves me wrong since when we saw each other, the same old feelings came back. During his stay, we had able to spend more time together, he really spent special and quality time with me. During those days, i really feel like i'm too special.. and during this time, we take really time to talk, about us, about our situation and he admitted that he also felt the same towards me, but unfortunately we have our families now... I was so dammed and fool, why i
let myself be carried away despite with our present situation. when he left, i'd felt that he had taken half of me. he was my weakness before and even until now. I know that this is wrong, but it really really hurts me seeing him go, i'd felt that i have to wait for another long years before i will going to see him again. we communicated thru emails and sometimes he called me up... but when i broke up with him, he seldom communicated and it really really makes me sad.. how i'd wish i can reverse my decision and fight for my love 'though it's immoral. i love my husband, but i love him more... please help me, i'm having hard time coping up. I feel that my life is in a mess now... i don't know why i am so affected by the situation. i dont have anybody to talk about this since i have a very conservative family and i don't think they will tolerate this foolishness. my only mistake is to love him dearly. please advise. thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2008): Is he married or in a relationship? Are you? I'd like to know more about both your situations plus any details of what went on in the past before making any comments or judgements. PM me if you like.
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