A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have been with my spouse for 6 years, since i was 18 years old iv been with him. im starting to hate my husband and i cant seem to know why. i just do. we fight alot. we both disagree alot. even when we spend time alone together theres an akward silence like we have nothing in common to say to each other except negative things. when we have sex its quick, with no passion, and no love. i feel like a peice of meat during sex. he never hugs me and when i try he seems to just pat me on the back. i dont think he hates me, im not ugly, im not fat but a lil thick. im the bread winner and have everything we have because of me. he works then comes home to drink its an endless cycle everyday. i have no way out. he left for 2 months a while ago and i couldnt jugle work and a kid alone so he came back. what should i do? hes an old fashioned man whos 7 years older than me. im younger and edgier. and im on baby number two soon..ughh .. Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2011): having unprotected sex with someone you loathe and disdain is always a bad idea, I never understand why people do it.
If it wasn't for the baby, would you still be with him? if you can say honestly the answer is no, then don't let a new baby keep you with someone you otherwise wouldn't be with. sounds like your husband doesn't want to be with you either anyway cos you say he left for 2 months and only came back cos you needed help with the kid. he didn't come back because he loved you, he came back out of obligation and duty and probably guilt. He's probably been resentful ever since. Don't continue this kind of marriage. it's a terrible burden to put on the kids, to be the glue that holds your marriage together. get the guts to break out of this horrible marriage and be strong on your own with your kids and maybe some day find a new man who will be a better and more importantly a willing life partner and father figure to your kids. set your husband free since it looks like he doesn't want to be with you either.
A
female
reader, chocoholicforever +, writes (28 June 2011):
If you hate your husband, then you should leave him and figure out how to raise the kids in a divorced home. your hatred of him will only intensify once you have the added stress of a second child. If you hate him, then in my opinion you're already divorced in mind and spirit, just that by not being physically divorced you have the added psychological burden of being trapped and having your senses assaulted every day.
although, some may question if you two made a baby together so recently then surely your relationship musn't be all that bad and there may be something worth saving?
...............................
|
