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anonymous
writes:I've been seeing a guy for 2 years and we kinda fell apart, and me and his best friend have been spending lots of time together. Should I leave his friend alone or continue?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionstina, to answer your questions here it goes: yes we are broke up. yes i am free to date other people, BUT not his boys, or friends, relatives, etc. The guys are very close. I already have had an romantic relationship and I want to know if I should go on or leave it alone? Our relationship fell apart because while he was in jail for 10 months, I ran for moral support form his friend and I end up here now. And all the other responders: its easier said than done. when they are always together and I'm there sitting in the middle watching both
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (30 May 2007):
 There is nothing wrong 'in principle' with dating his friend, but things could get tricky all the same. If you both get together then his friend (your ex) should be told about it fairly soon. I was in an on-off relationship with a guy in my early 20's and when we split up I was angry about it so I dated his best friend out of stupid revenge. It all ended horribly, largely because they ended up resenting each other and I only dated the friend for the wrong reasons. My point is that if you really like your ex's friend then you are doing nothing wrong in dating him, but if you have other motivations for dating him then I would think again.
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reader, stina +, writes (30 May 2007):
 Hi Anonymous,
What do you mean that you and the guy you've been seeing "fell apart." Are you broken up? Are you free to date other people? How close are these guys? I'm guessing that you want to have a romantic relationship with this other guy? Did your relationship fall apart because you were spending time with the friend? Sorry I have so many questions, but there are virtually no details in your question so it's hard to understand your situation.
Anyway, I'll try and give some general advice that you could probably use. ^_^ Dating the friends of ex's can be quite tricky. I think that it would be best for his friend to ask the guy you've been seeing how he would feel about you both dating each other. You don't want to be a part of destroying a friendship, do you?
Take care.
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reader, willem  +, writes (30 May 2007):
 well u r still young, decide what !U! want ,but remember do 2 ppl what u want ppl 2 do 2 u.......................
well thats about it!~
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reader, DontFlirtWithSuicide +, writes (30 May 2007):
 if there is nothing left between you and the guy then you shoukld just think of you and his friend that your just two people who like each other your doing nothing rong if you like him and have feeling for him you cant controll that , just go with the flow =]
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