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writes:ok so my one year anniversary is in less than a week. about 3 years ago my parents went through a rough divorce because my dad cheated on my mom. i've been so worried that that was going to happen to me. i really don't know what to do. my bf is really great but i feel as if i'm being a bit clingy because of my fear of him cheating on me. i've almost broken up with him twice and i felt really bad about it because he seems to be so sweet and different then other guys and i have a hard time trusting people and he seems to really love me. but i really don't know what to do. i feel clingy and everything and i don't know how to quit that and just trust him. how can i trust him and not be so afraid????????thx a lot if u can help me!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): I know your clingy and have trust issues because of your parents breakup, but really this is doing you no good. I don't know if your boyfriend will cheat, I don't know if he will leave you. Nobody knows these things, not me, not you, not even him. All we know is that at this moment it's you he wants to spend time with, it's you he wants to support.
Your parents and their marriage are in your head. Your concentrating on the wrong thing. It's their business why their relationship went wrong, just as it is your business on why your relationship is going wrong. You need to be concentrating on your boyfriend, how he makes you feel and the fun things you can do together. You want to concentrate on your future, your self esteem and friends and family.
If you continue on your present course, your making it more, not less likely that your boyfriend will become unhappy and leave/cheat. You overdependant on him and are probably strangling him to death with your need for reassurance. He cannot reassure you, no matter what he tells you, you still think he will cheat. Take yourself out of the little box that your in at the moment. Make yourself and your boyfriend happy. Start doing fun things that you both enjoy. Give him a reason to stay with you, make him want to come home to you. Concentrate on your relationship and forget about your parents.
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