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female
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30-35,
*nee
writes:im so freaked out my bf might cheat on me....ive been in a relationship for almost 4yrs now and ive realized that im quite a jealous girlfriend - and i hate tht im like this,,,,you see on a few occasions my bf has lied to me about other girls eg texting them lots. over the past few yrs we have always argued about other girls hes friends with. i was feeling so jealous tht i read his text one day and found out he had been texting sum1 at his work and completly lied to me about it - after a huge argument he came clean and promised not to lie to me again - but i found out he was texting this other girl he went to school with and even called her 'cutey' when i asked him about it this time he didnt lie but we still argued about it...i do really love him and i no he loves me so much but im finding it so hard not to be jealous. he recently started a band with him and a female singer and naturally this has been brought up ... and he said he wouldnt do it anymore unless he was with other pl in the band.... and now another girl from work asked him to come out for her bday....i think im goin mad - im playing the worst possible out comes in my head and it really effecting me.am i just being stupid and jealous?or should i asctully be worried? sorry this is long.....any help would be gr8 x
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reader, mercerbear  +, writes (7 June 2008):
us females definitely have instinct- and i can def. tell you that guys know how to lie and they know how to make you forgive them. don't put up with it- remember- love is not supposed to hurt. to many times he's got caught lying and when he told you the lie- he sounded so convincing so how can you really tell? the answer is you can't. you wouldn't be so jealous if he didn't give you a reason to. (it might sound like i'm man bashing now, but i'm not- i just have some experience in this area)
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (7 June 2008):
 What did the text messages say?? If they were just talking whatever, and did not include anything like: I'll see you tonight, I miss you or I loved what we did last night... I don't think there is a lot to worry about. Seems you might be getting jealous about anything and everything.
However, we females tend to have an "instinct" to be suspicious when something really is going on, so don't throw that out the window just yet. Has he been acting differently? Have you always been like this? Is there something other than what your saying here that makes you believe he might cheat?
In any case the truth is there is nothing you can do to stop someone from cheating on you!! So sneaking around, reading his cel and fighting over nothing will only lead to the fading of your relationship. Best of lucks!
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