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writes:I am a 20 year male and I have never had a girlfriend/had sex. My first question is, is this normal? I feel it is not because I am surrounded by people in relationships, or at least have had their first kiss by now and I just feel this emptiness and aloneness. I truly am convinced it will never happen. People always tell me "Oh, just wait, your time will come, you'll find someone." I am unconvinced by this since I've been hearing it for years. I go to college and I work out, and to parties/events all the time but while I witness so many hookups/people getting together, at the end of the day it's just me. My closest friends have been in relationships for years, and anytime I approach a girl, I'm always rejected. Now, I've recently built up more confidence than I've ever had, and I'm beginning to view myself in a better way, but how can I cure myself of this endless, repeating hopeless pattern? And how can I get a girl to actually show any kind of interest?
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (10 February 2013):
 Tease women playfully, build sexual tension, eye contact, body language, tone of voice etc are all important when attracting a woman. Read man read plenty of books out there on psychology of women. Keep in the gym too. Women love a nice body.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (10 February 2013):
I would like to add to what Code Warrior said.
The less you think about hooking up , the better. You have to start taking control of your life instead of being a bystander. Talk to more girls and befriend a few and find out if you are the problem. You seem like a nice guy so aim for more reserved and mature girls. Girls are parties I think are looking for trouble makers or hook-ups and I don't think this is what you are looking for. Also if you do become interested in a girl, try to ask her out asap before you fall into a friendzone. Good luck to ya
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2013): I'm not sure what you are like as a person, but maybe you aren't approaching the right kind of girls. Try a woman who spends their nose in a book and keeps away from parties. They tend to be the publically reserved and yet get to know them and they are hyper-sexual, fiercely loyal and grateful someone approached them. Try something different I guess, and hopefully, you'll be surprised. Let us know if you are successful. Either way, keep trying, you'll come up trumps soon enough.
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