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writes:Me and my boyfriend met a year ago in the disco and we made out. Then he accidentally met some people I knew and he tried to reach me, added me on msn but I hardly talked to him. We only crossed each other a couple of times but it was very brief because he obviously realized that I didn't want anything with him and that I didn't want to see him. A year later I saw him again after talking on msn several times and he said he had a girlfriend (which wasn't true, he just said that because he didn't want to rush up things with me), and I had just broken up with my ex. We hung out together almost daily at night until we were really close to each other. After a month he asked me to go out with him and we've been together for 4 months since then. When we were hanging out as friends before he being my boyfriend, he still had sex with this "friend" of his who he met on the web and who he says to be a bitch. But still, he calls her his friend.. he told me that they had sex even after breaking up and even when she had another boyfriend. When we were already going out together, she called him and told him that she wanted to see him alone in the disco and he told me and I said "do whatever you want" and then he said he wouldn't go. Several weeks later she called again and he told her that we could meet that night so that we met each other. But I told him no way, "I'm not interested in meeting a bitch, if you want you can go but I'm not going". Anyway.. another day he told me he had told her that I didn't want to see her and that she said ok, that she didn't wasn't interested either. I got mad, why on earth did he want me to meet her on the first place? he said because she was his friend and that I'd be nice.. pathetic. Ah by the way.. he told me once that she is like a model and that she can have any man she wants.So that time that I said I didn't want to meet her, he didn't go to meet her either.. I don't know why can't he go all alone?? I know that it'd drive me mad but not going only means that he knows that they're not just friends. How can I live with this ex of his nearby?? she's right now in england studing so I haven't heard much of her, but she'll most certainly be back some day to live here again and I just don't know what to do. I don't want to tell my boyfriend to stop seeing her but she's a bitch and that's it. I'm not making friends with someone who still wanted to have sex with him knowing that he had a girlfriend (me). Please I need some advice on this topic.
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT  +, writes (4 August 2007):
 Hi there babes,
If this is how you really feel about all of this then you have to make it perfectly clear to your partner, he has told you she is a bitch, but why is she?????
Your partner was happy to sleep with her babes, it does take two doesn't it????
Are you scared he will sleep with her again?????/
If so then you have no trust in him and a realtionship is built on this, if you have no trust then the foundation for a relationship is not yet laid......
I do understand how you feel here babes honest I do but is this man for you, can he have her as a friend and not sleep with her?, these are the questions you need to ask yourself babes......
You know something darling you and only you deserves a great man in your life to treat and love you like your the most special thing he has ever seen , when you find this man you will know if you haven't met him yet then keep looking, but in the mean time enjoy life go out there and have fun,
I wish you all the fun, happiness in the world right now my sweet
Love Donna xx
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