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writes:Hi,I am really into this guy, you'll know this if you have read my previous questions. He used to work next door to me and would come to visit me everyday at work and would make it very clear that he liked me. We kissed last week but we're not together because we don't want to rush into things. Well that's what he said first.. That's good right? He wants to do things right because he really likes me? He keeps telling me he likes me and says the sweetest things but there's a small part of me that finds it hard to believe. I guess the main reason I'm here is because he wants to spend more time with me and go on dates but the problem is that I'm so nervous when it comes to dates. I'm not really good with them at all. I actually avoid it. It's the awkwardness (even though I've known him for nearly a year) opening up to him, showing him the real me.. It frightens me so much that now he's probably thinking I'm not that into him when I really am. My fears are getting in the way and I don't want to lose him.
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reader, Help from Lisa +, writes (29 June 2015):
 it's completely understandable to be nervous, thousands of people go through what you're going through.I would suggest try not to avoid things as much as you can as this will make things more awkward for you. Don't worry I would probably want to run for the hills myself. I'm sure that you will find that eventually it WILL get easier. If anything think about how you don't want to loose him, and how avoiding things won't make it any easier for you or him. just take at least half an hour before each date to calm your nerves and think about the good things.How well the date can go, how much you want to stay with him, and how you don't want things to get complicated if you avoid things.I really hope everything goes well for you. Good luck with everything
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (29 June 2015):
 Everyone is a little nervous when dating someone new.
Go out on dates with him, GET to know him and LET him get a chance to get to know you.
Just be HONEST with him and tell him you are scared you aren't "good" at the whole dating thing, but that you REALLY want to get to know him. Ask him if you two can go slow.
Plan SHORT dates in the beginning. Do things where you are either BOTH familiar ( like a favorite museum) or neither of you are familiar (like painting/making pottery) (JUST examples, but I'm sure you get the point).
It will be OK.
Push yourself out of your comfort zone a little. Just DO NOT do anything yo udon't WANT to do, or aren't ready for.
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reader, SensitiveBloke +, writes (29 June 2015):
 It's quite normal to feel nervous going on a date with someone you're just starting to get to know, but it's well worth it! Like most things in life, the first time is always the hardest, but then each time after it gets a easier.
You must not allow your nerves to stop you from getting into a happy relationship. Face your nerves head on, and say to yourself: "I'm petrified about this, but I'm going to do it anyway!"
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