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*ames.G1985
writes:Hello everyone.So it's time to get this sorted once and for all.I have no idea where this came from, but I have a paranoia problem.I am not very confident to start with, I am a short guy.I have just grown this paranoia, if I see people laughing at work, I think they are laughing at me.When ever I am in a relationship, I am always thinking the worst. If they send me a text and its a little short I think they have lost interest, I have lost 2 girlfriends to this, I am seeing someone at the moment, not had sex or nothing, just 2 dates. She sends a short message every now and then and I think the same thing with her, "she has gone off me" bla bla bla.I have paranoia I am sure of it, or maybe its low self esteem?.Some days I am ok in the relationship side of things, as long as I am getting a loving text message or email or phone call, if not I start worrying, and I don't for one second expect any woman to be always loving.I just want to be happy, can someone give me advise?CheersJames
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reader, moon river +, writes (30 March 2011):
 Do you do excersise?It makes you feel better, gives you time to think and gives you better stronger (making you look more self assured) posture.I have really cynical attitudes towards anything and everything but paranoia is different, it sound like maybe it stems from a low feeling of self worth. Maybe work on that first.Xxxx
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reader, VioletSparkle  +, writes (30 March 2011):
sounds very much as low self esteem, what about doing something about that? If you sort out other areas of your life and get to feel really confident in those - dunno, your work, your hobbies, your looks/clothes, a couple of sex manuals? - I am not saying to try too hard, but just to brainwash yourself that you are really a good catch for any woman (you don't need to tell *them*) maybe that will help? There s a great book, with a silly title "the six pillars of self esteem", but I think it's a really fundamental reading for anybody :-)
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