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writes:I'm having a problem at school. I had a really big fallout with my former friends and in consequence I moved class. There were 2 of them 'against' only me. They didn't want to be my friend because we had different interests ( as people do as they grow older) and also they said I was holding them back from making friends with other people. So, in my new class I try to make friends with everyone, partly to not be lonely and partly , most likely because of my own insecurity after what happened. But the thing is- the people I'm friends with are also friends with by two former friends. I do realise everyone has there own personal choice as who they want to be friends with so I'm not bothered by that, its the fact that they make friends so easily with the people I want to be good friends with. I realise that I must be jealous of the fact they can do that so easily, so what can I do to stop myself being so jealous? I sometimes sit there, silent, on the verge of crying ( yes, if you hadn't guessed I'm a teenager :) ) because I am scared of losing my friendship to them.I know I should get up and do something rather than sitting there but I'm not a out-going person to begin with and I think that I'm trying my hardest already and I don't want to change who I am just for that. I would really appreciate answers. Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2006): I'm sure there are other girls in your class who feel like that, maybe you could approach them and give them a smile. Try not to 'tag' after people because that won't get you anywhere, but cautiously trying to make friends with those girls that you refer to as your 'former friends' might help. Just tell them that you're really upet about the arguement and what they said hurt you a lot. Just act smiley, happy, and funny, that way you won't need to approach people because they'll approach me.
Alternatively, you could just go and sit next to girls who you'd like to make friends with and start a conversation simply by telling them how you got moved into their class and a conversation will flow from that x
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