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writes:I love my boyfriend incredibly so and we have been dating for 6months, its a long distance relationship and I have became really insecure, I tried to hide it from my boyfriend but I can't anymore. I don't understand why but he told me that this girl at work said to him that she really likes him and wants to be with him. He then tried to reassure me that he only liked me, not her and I was annoyed but ok with it until I saw on facebook a picture of her wearing his hoodie...he wrote below it that he wanted it back but in a funny joke sort of way and she said... silly billy, no way ;). Im am starting to wonder if I should be with him because feeling like this isn’t good for me but I can't imagine life without him. As a young child I watched domestic violence from my mum against my dad as well as my mum having many affairs, she suffered severe depression and tried to kill herself many times. Through all this my dad never left my mothers side, which i find hard to understand. I find it really hard to talk about and my boyfriend doesn’t know about it. I wonder if growing up with this in my child hood is what is causing my insecure and jealous attitude or is it that my boyfriend is trying to make me insecure...please help im so confused :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2011): Now you should try and talk to him, make him explain the situation and if you feel that he is trying to squirm his way out with lies. Then he is not worth keeping.
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reader, Claraw1  +, writes (26 August 2011):
 Long Distance relationships are very hard, but THEY CAN WORK. It is easy to get insecure when your not with them, I am in a long distance relationship, and it takes a lot of hard work. He told you about this woman from his work, so he is being honest with you, so I don't see that he is hiding anything. I would ask him why she has his hoodie and see what his reply is before doing anything else. With a long distance relationship, you have to work a bit harder to make them work, but it can be done if you want it to be. I can understand how hard it is to talk about the things you experienced in the past with your family, I was abused as a child and found it difficult to talk about. When you do tell people you care about, you find they suddenly have a better understanding about you, but it is entirely up to you if you want to tell anyone anything. Anyway, I suggest finding out why she has his hoodie before making any decisions about your relationship, it may be very innocent. Good luck sweetie.
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reader, Veronika_R  +, writes (26 August 2011):
Hon, distance relationships don't work, they once did..but not in these times.. believe me --
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