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writes: HI, I'm 16 and theres a boy in my sociology class... I think about him all the time. I dream about us kissing and holding hands almost everyn ight. I also talk to him online, but he never replies... does that mean that he doesn't like me?I see him smiling at me sometimes, but I don't know if I'm just being paranoid or reading into things too much. And the other day, he found my ID card and came up to me and gave it back, he smiled then as well. He is very quiet, and I can't tell him I fancy him, I need some other way, body language?But I'm totally hung up on this guy, and I've googled him and save the pictures... I know it seems slightly stalkerish!please help
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reader, Uncle Robin +, writes (4 November 2005):
Dear anonymous female reader,
1. Body language is difficult sometimes (he's probably trying to read yours, and if he's quiet, this usually means he's a bit on the shy side too).
Being shy (I am advising you from expereince) also means that you are unsure of what all the body language means
Thoughts such as: "...is she flirting with me...no she carn't be, lets wait and see what she does next" Will be going through his head. Basically as a shy person you've not had the benefit of expereince of confirming suspected flirting activity, because you've never acted on it and benefited from reflecting on the results.
You have to help him...flirt more, smile at him, do little firtive waves when you pass him in the corridor. If you chat with him on-line (I suspect he's not the only one in the chat-room or online, or do you have the facility to only send him a message!) Just do it! Or, hand him a bit of paper with you phone number.
Why do men have to do the chasing (some of the nicest blokes arn't capable of it, and you are missing out and landing yourself with over-confident potentially oppressive jock's). Just go for it and widen the choices of boy friend that you have.
Doing sociology probably means he's the reflective kind. Just go for it...you do the chasing.
Just be brave and do it.
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reader, whatever +, writes (4 November 2005):
Well, you certainly sound like a teenage girl. I think you should just come out and say you like him- life's too short to let it slip by you. Drop subtle (well, maybe not too subtle) hints in emails over the internet and if he completely ignores you, you should consider moving on. There's plenty of other fish in the sea. And trust me, if he's the quiet type he could turn out to be really annoying or strange in the end. Be forward at the start, then play hard to get. Flirt wildly with other guys and see if it stimulates a response in him. If not- move on! Time spent day dreaming about a hopeless case is time wasted on the time you could be spending with someone else doing the real thing!
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