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*inybubble
writes:I have this really big crush on this guy for about a year. We belong to a music organization in our college and he gives me free violin lessons twice a week for about 4 months now. Just last night, I finally had the courage to tell him how i feel. We were in a school event then I approached him and asked if I could talk to him in private. So we went out of the venue and sat on the grass in the school grounds. I am a good painter so I made a painting of him playing his violin and I gave it to him, still wrapped in a brown paper bag. When he saw the painting, he laughed and said that he appreciated it very much and was thinking of a place to hang it. So I told him that I've really liked him for some time now. Then he told me that somehow he already had an inkling that I liked him but didn't really want to assume. Then he told stories about some girls (and gay guys) who admitted their feelings for him in the past and how he still remained friends with these people as if nothing happened. I told him that I hope he wouldn't feel awkward around me. And he said, "Of course. I'm even more worried about you being awkward around me." Then, we started to talk about our plans in life after college (we're both college seniors), and about work (we also have the same part time job as music teachers). I think he actually left me hanging because he didn't say he liked me nor did he say stuff like "I don't like you that way" or "I like this other girl". Then, he reminded me about the concert he will be performing in with his string ensemble the next day and said that I should come. I said "Yes, I'm really planning to go." Then, we finally decided to go home and I asked him to walk me home and he agreed. While walking, we were just laughing and talking about random stuff as if nothing happened. No awkward moments at all. His concert was just awhile ago. I arrived an hour early with another friend and sat somewhere at the back. I was looking for him in my seat. Then, I saw him somewhere in the corner of the venue. I texted him "Good luck :)" but sadly, I saw him look at his phone then returned it in his pocket, not even bothering to reply "thank you". Then, after his performance, we went backstage to congratulate him and we shook his hand. He was there with his mom. He said thanks and was smiling but seemed to be busy arranging his stuff because he had a bus to catch after his performance. So, me and my friend stood in a corner and my friend said that he was looking our way. Then, me and my friend decided to leave already. We said our goodbyes and he smiled at me. Then as we walked for some distance, I looked back at him and I think he was also looking at me since his head was turned to my direction, but I really would not like to assume. Now I'm very confused. I really don't know what to do since I'm not sure if he likes me or not. Should I give up now and just move on? Or just keep my hopes up? BTW, he's a very shy guy. He's not the type who would easily decide to make the first move on a girl. He's a mysterious guy who is very hard to read because he doesn't talk that much which is why I'm not sure if he's just friendly with me or he likes me.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (15 December 2012):
 He is shy to make a move, and he is shyer to reject someone. It takes just as much gut to reject as to make a move. When he told you about people who liked him and he acted like nothing happened, he is giving you a sign that he does not like you that way, and he hopes you that you could read the sign and move on. He could be gay as well.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 December 2012):
 You plucked up enough courage to tell him you liked him, which I am sure took a lot of courage, so good for you. Now I think you need to take the next step, ask him would he like to go out on a date with you or if he just wants to leave it as friends, tell him you just want to know for sure where you stand and hopefully he will be honest with you. Him mentioning that gay guys have told him they like him, could it be that he is in fact gay and that was his way off telling you? I think all you need to do here is to talk to him and see how it goes. good luck.
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