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26-29,
anonymous
writes:I have this best friend i met for 3 years and have a crush for 2. We are very open with each other and are constantly each other's emotional back up. When she breaks up with another boyfriend, i'm there, when she finds out a guy she loved was already in a relationship, i'm there to calm her down. Recently, she said to me she was assexual, that she didn't feel any lust. (and even though most of people love sex, i wouldn't mind giving up in such for her). And i was there, as always, backing her up and helping her. And today, when we were talking, after being in a party she said she was lesbian, that men grossed her out. I really love her, but i don't know if i can take it seriously when it comes to her saying she's lesbian, because in a matter of a week ago she said she felt no lust, that she was assexual. Any help? I love her a lot, and there's nothing i can't do for her. I don't know how she hasn't realized that i love her.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (16 August 2012):
 I think she is just a very confused young girl who doesnt really know what she wants. I presume she is the same age as you (13-15), and at that age you shouldnt be having sex anyway so it is normal for her not to feel much lust.
When girls are young teenagers they have loads of hormones raging inside them so they can get very confused, one minute they might like boys, the next they might hate them.
I wouldnt worry about it too much, I'm sure by next week she will have changed her mind again and will be back on boys again.
I think you will be best to wait a few more years until she is older and more mature when she has figured out her sexuality and what she wants in a boyfriend/girlfriend before you start to think about dating her, she is not ready for relationships at the moment so stay as good friends and see what happens in a few years time.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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