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anonymous
writes:I've been with my 1st x for 3 month. never told him I've love him and he has told me he held me close to his heart. I've broke up with him 3 times cause i wasn't sure if he really cared for me and i've always hidden my feelings from him and talked to my friends about them. i still deeply care about him. He stopped using messenger and has ignored all my messages sayin "i miss u" "r we friends?" and my calls until i've told him i'm sorry. it shows he was mad at me. He wrote that we are still friends, he cares about me and his doing different things, and hopes i can move on and and because I've never did anything wrong to him. I'm cynical and I feel heart broken. I've recently email him and told him how I feel and told him he broke my heart and we were never meant to be. A week later, I asked him to hang out and he never replied. I don't know what to think due to the endless possibilities.I've been crying every night because I've broke up with him and he is ignoring me. Has he moved on ? How came he doesn't talk to me anymore if he says we are friends and that he still cares.
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reader, Lo lo  +, writes (21 March 2008):
all i can say is move on that the best thing you can do i no it hurts it has happened to me and i thought i will never love agen if he said he want to be mate leve it as that and just give him time so he can think about what he wants all you can do is be there for him when he needs a friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2008): Okay, you need to go back to square one with this guy if you want it to start working again. Remind him of why he enjoyed being with you, make him want it again. Crying over split milk won't help and you'll only put him off by repeatidly saying how much you miss him, because if he cared as much as you do for him, he wouldn't be giving you the cold sholder like this.
The thing is, you have to always be very guided in telling someone how much they mean to you. In england we're too reserved and in America I sometimes think people are too open. I've been with my girlfriend 6 months now and without saying the three words 'i love you', i've recently made it clear to her that I do in many other ways.
Actions speak loader than words, and its certainly unhealthy to continue approaching him through IM and email. Get face to face, flirt. Remind him he wants to be with you, you don't need to keep telling him how much you want him.
Hope this helped, best of luck I really feel for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2008): I think you bruised the relation to the point of no return. Your continuous breakups and get back togethers with him, sent mixed messages. Rejection, mistrust, a whole boat load of feelings I'm sure he felt by your actions. I would stay away from anyone who did that to me to. It is like the song Billy Jean by Michael Jackson, where he talks about breaking ones heart.
lyrics:
People always told me be careful of what you do
And dont go around breaking young girls hearts
And mother always told me be careful of who you love
And be careful of what you do cause the lie becomes the truth
Same applies to men, if you flip flop, can't make up your mind, then you will hurt the relationship. Communication is very important, and it seems there are many women that have this problem as well as men.
Anyways, I hate to say, but you need to improve and steady your feelings and be a little more consistent in them. For this relationshp, I feel it is over because of the statements above, and is time you move on and forget him. At this point, you continually contacting him might be consider harrassment.
Sorry girl, I hope you turn things around soon.
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