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writes:I'm 17 and was with my boyfriend for 3 years, we even got engaged. I was having trouble coming to terms with my mums death and he thought sex was more important than my feelings. We then went on a break for a week and he moved into his mums. Then 5 days later he called to tell me he had slept with another girl of 20 with a baby! Ive also started to have feelings for my bosss who is 47 and he likes me too. Im so confused do i try to get back with my ex fiance or go for this new guy? and would it be wrong to start a relationship with a guy of this age?
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT +, writes (27 March 2007):
 Hi Babes,
Losing your mum must be very hard for you especially at such a young age you have so many emotions to deal with, without worrying that a boyfriend is demanding his sexual needs and then you decided to have a short break, in that time he rang you to say he had had sex with a 20 year old woman with a baby, you were engaged to this guy, he obviously has no respect for you and not once did he ever think about your feelings, so all I need to ask is, is this the type of person you wish to spend your whole life with? I think not so what a lucky escape.....
This is your boss who is 47 years old he obviously knows you have lost your mum he probably feels your hurt and is looking out for you after all you are only 17.
I wouldn't go there babes he will be flattered that a 17 year old finds him attractive but as for a long term relationship No.....
You need to keep busy, go out with friends, find a hobby you will soon meet a guy who will love, cherish and respect you , you deserve the best in life so don't sell yourself short...
Enjoy life honey life sends many tests but it makes us stronger and wiser so go out there girl and grab the world with both hands and enjoy..........
Good luck thinking of you and we are here to help anytime
Love
Donna
xxx
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reader, Reebe +, writes (27 March 2007):
 Oh dear your very confused. Take a deep breath.
your ex boyfriend doesn't seem to have much respect for you, going through a death of a parent is one of the hardest things and he didn't sound like he was very supportive. I wouldn't try and get back with your ex you need someone in your life who makes you feel good about yourself and who cares for you enough to listen and offer hugs not think about his sex drive.
As for your boss I think at 47 he would be very flattered to know that a 17 year old woman was interested in him, but I doubt it would ever be anything more than a crush on your behalf. Your a young woman who sounds like she has a lot of worries right now.
Take some time out from men and work on yourself, go out and have fun with your friends concentrate on school/work. Enjoy yourself and eventually you'll meet who your supposed to be with :-)
Take Care and Good Luck
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