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writes:hello, Im 26 and ive never had a relationship, every possible relationship seems to hit a wall because, for example a female will give me her number and never answer my call or call me back, she will tell me she likes me and would like to hang out some time but always has an excuse not to ie work or shes going to a picnic on a day thats pouring rain.I have deleted plenty of females from my phone and different friend list only to have them contact me weeks or months later to say hi long time no see. I usually tell them its because they didnt want to see me they say its because they where busy i say its cool take care then they say something like w/e F%$# you. It seems like theres not one decent honest none gameplaying female in the world. why do women talk to you for hours at the club or bar or wherever and give you their number if they have no intentions of speaking to you again. and the number is their real number i call immediately and there phone will ring. Im a pretty easy going guy i would prefer a girl to just tell me shes not interested rather than BS me.im starting to think its not something im doing or not doing my bad luck with females seems almost supernatural like a curse, I have money im attractive so ive been told and i consider my self to be and im a nice guy so whats the deal, The only female ive ever even come close to having a relationship with is hundreds of miles away is in love with another guy and would only be interested in me to forget her ex, basically i would be the rebound guy.tired of being asked if im gay because i never have a gf tired of being the only single guy at events work or family outings, all my friends are married with kids or enganged with kids or have a gf and kids, (i dont want kids though.)its getting irritating these females playing games, im not agressive when it comes to women im the type of guy that walks away real quick i even told some that i didnt think they where feeling me so i would let them go and they will tell me they like me and say we can chill next week but next week theres some lame excuse their phones always conviently break.Well at this point im ready to just give up on females all togather im not going to talk to them and if they talk to me i will just ignore them or say something to get them to leave me alone.im deleting any that are left on my friends list, and basically i give i got everything else in life i need so im officially done with females.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2010): "why do women talk to you for hours at the club or bar or wherever and give you their number if they have no intentions of speaking to you again."
There's the crux of the matter. Try ANYWHERE else. Starbucks even. Damn, you'll find better women at one of those than partyville. It's stupid. Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. And no, I don't cotton to a woman calling you months later and pretending like they never blew you off. They know damn well what they're doing, it's disrespectful, and though I wouldn't be a jerk about it...fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice..I'd just make sure they know you've got better things to do than be an emotional cumrag. If they're calling you months later, make sure they know you're wanting to do more than play charades over the phone. They don't get that males do not open up easily..hearttalk comes like BS to a politician for women. Not so for men. They don't get that, though..and if they do, they must not give a crap, because they have no concept of what being male in this society is like..I've found that more men seem to get female burden than vice versa. Like you they'd ever let you forget their burdens. LOL. Always beware a woman that will share too much emotional crap with you too soon. And don't talk to them much over the phone. Get down to business ASAP. When you call them, call them to do something face to face, whatever it may be. It's usually a bad sign that you are headed to "the guy friend that might as well be gay" territory if they're just texting you and stringing you along, especially if you've made your intentions known. It means A) You are a backup, B) You are amusement & a source of attention, or C) They're too timid to just tell you that they aren't interested. So much for the "liberated" woman. Since they're still so tippy-toe timid, we should not be. State your intention. Don't be crass, but make it clear you're not on the make you just want a break.
And yes, not all women are jerks, but most the women AND men you'll find in a club/bar have the maturity levels of 4-year-olds. So, even IF you meet one there that doesn't, and you are an exception too, they're going to just assume you are another 4-year-old barfly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010): Hey i asked this question, thanks for all the answers, alot of good points, Well since then ive actually been on a date it was ok i liked the girl personality wise, physically im not so much attracted to her shes not ugly just not my type. This girl i really like says she will go out with me but never does if tell her something nice she says all guys say that and all guys just want sex its kind of anoying if i just wanted sex theres easier ways. I guess theres something wrong with me but im not sure like someone said the females arent going to tell you, it would be less confusing if the told me they didnt like me and never talked to me again i can get that but telling me you like me and miss me if dont talk to you for a week but never wanting to hangout is confusing. but its ok cuse im done really im kool being single, Im a kool guy if females want to play games with me its there lost i kno plenty that end up with a ton of kids and in a terrible relation ship struggling. they way i see it God will put the rte one in my life and he blocks the others from getting to me. any way thanks all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2010): That's pretty normal man, I lost count of the number of times I've gotten numbers, texted them and had brief conversations but they wouldn't commit to a meeting.
There's lots of reasons girls do this, some play hard to get, others are nervous, others were drunk when they gave their number and regretted it, some changed their minds, some found someone else or got back with an ex, or moved away, or had other things planned for weeks, or reconsidered after talking to their friends. Basically my point is, just keep trying there are too many variables to go into to make it reflect badly on yourself or the girls.
Just make sure you don't come on too strong and always make it seem like you have plenty of other things to do. Don't give up either though, remember meeting up with a guy you met in a bar can be quite a daunting thing, it's a very risky thing to do. Maybe you can meet them on a night out with your or their friends first a couple of times.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (11 June 2010):
 Get used to it buddy take 20 bucks down to your local night spot get a drink and support a stripper. get the rite drink and the rite stripper and all your troubles are over in fact you got money take a c note
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (11 June 2010):
Get used to it buddy take 20 bucks down to your local night spot get a drink and support a stripper. get the rite drink and the rite stripper and all your troubles are over in fact you got money take a c note
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reader, YouWish +, writes (11 June 2010):
 Well, whenever I hear of someone continuously striking out with girls who routinely blow them off, the first thing I think of is that there's something off-putting in the guy that women aren't just going to up and say in order to be polite.
First question - why when the women call you back weeks or months later do you blow them off with a sarcastic comment?? Seems to me that they ARE getting back to you, though just not when you want them to. You've gotta lose the attitude, or no woman will want to be with you.
Also, I'd recommend if you have a platonic lady friend or a sister, get them to evaluate you. Or, have a buddy join you at the club to just watch you and how you deal with women. Find people who are honest with you, and it's possible that they'll spot something that's been tripping you up that you've been oblivious to. It could be as simple as you leaning in too close to women, or talking too much about yourself, or halitosis, or inappropriate touching. I don't know!
But I'd suggest that for starters! Nothing wrong with always evaluating the image you portray!
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