A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Me and my boyfriend have been together since 2years. and its been more than a year we started living together. He is not at all a romantic kind of a person and little dominating. He is out for vaccation and is meeting his family for 1 month. My boyfriend tells me he does nothing and is always at home. but my problem is he doesnt calls me everyday. and even if i call he doesnt like to talk to me. he is too lazy to call. and i hate being treated like this. i have told him several times. bt he doesnt makes any effort. I feel like breaking up with him or moving out. what sould i do? please help me. Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2011): Living together before marriage is always a BAD IDEA. This is because when a man lives with a woman before he marries her he is less likely to be committed enough to stick with the relationship when crisis start because since there is no marriage there is always a get out door for him. Marriage is what makes people put in more effort. Your BF is taking you for granted. Unfortunately depending on how long you have dealt with his unaccepatble and non cherishing behavior, then the only option for you is to either break up or move out. if he has only taken you for granted once or twice you can talk to him and see if he will come around.But after a year, talking will not solve anything anymore. Since you accepted the bad behavior, he will continue to dish it out. Its best to tell him in your nicest tone possible that you've decided to move out because you no longer feel happy and would prefer to continue to date but try whilst you are living alone, don't blame him, just say its for your own reasons. If there is no change after you move, the next step is to have some self esteem and tell him you are moving on. If he loves you, one of these actions should make him jump up and treat you better. A man who is in love with you CANNOT do without you. it really hurts and he won't stay away for long. He'll come back begging and keep calling. If he remains lazy, or he's indifferent, then he is not in love with you and saw you as a convinience. He was probably hoping you would move out but didn't know how to tell you. This is passive aggressive behavior. Jerks do this all the time that way they feel better about the split because the woman initiated it. DONT TAKE THE BAIT. Good Luck hun
A
female
reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (15 February 2011):
 If he's not the boyfriend you want him to be and he refuses to change. You can't change a guy when he doesn't want to change in the first place. Then you break up with him. If he's always been like this from day one, it's surely not going to change even if you move out. Dump him, and find a guy who can be the boyfriend you want.
...............................
A
female
reader, gls9867 +, writes (15 February 2011):
pack your stuff, n b4 he gets home, get all your personal belongings out of the house, n leave a note telling him that he can call you if he really loves you.
...............................
A
female
reader, moon river +, writes (15 February 2011):
 i once had this problem, then he left me, i felt so much better. a would recommend that you move on
...............................
|
