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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for two years and going on nine months now. Since the beginning, people have wondered how we've been able to stand each other this long. Sure, we have a ton in common and we now know way too much about each other, but we get on each other's nerves. All the damn time. We're always fighting and I just hate that! I'm pretty sure he does, too.We've been able to make it through our freshman year of college together (at different colleges) but I'm not really sure about us anymore. We're both starting our sophomore year in under a week and the last couple months, I've been contemplating a break-up from him. I mean, yes, I love him to death, but I can't keep putting myself through all these fights. I want to know what a relationship feels like without them and he's not helping me to achieve that.I do not have another guy in mind. I, by no means, am a cheater. I could never EVER do that! Basically, I just want to know how I can get rid of my boyfriend without killing him inside. Even thinking that, I know it's impossible, but I don't know what else to do. I am just so sick of fighting with him!I'd like some advce please. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2009): If you want a clean cut, be upfront and clear. Then stay firm.
If you two have already exhausted ways in trying to make things work, then you would want to step away from this relationship as cleanly as possible without ensuing drama and further heartbreak.
Furthermore, as you already am aware, there is no such thing as a break-up that does not hurt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2009): I think this relationship has run it's course. It is very rare that a relationship like this would last as you are both very young and you have your whole lives ahead of you.
Especially now that you are both in college you are going to go through some massive changes and you most likely will be stifling each other's growth rather than helping it along, hence all the bickering.
You will miss out on your best years in college if you are dragged down by an unhealthy relationship.
You just tell him you want to break up for reasons that have to do with your schooling and your desire to be single and to date others....you aren't going to kill him inside, words are powerful and those are very dramatic words that have no basis in reality.
You just need to both move on from each other, it is past time, you are too young to be tied down just now.
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