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writes:My girlfriend of about a year and half recently broke up with me and I am so sad. I honestly believe that she was my first love and she was the love of my life. It was more than a physical attraction, I had a deep emotional and attachment to her. The worst part is that we currently live together and neither one of us is able to break the lease and move out until April. She told me that all she needed was space to figure things out and that she doesn't want me out of her life. Its been about two weeks and she still tells me that she loves and cares about me. I believe that she loves me, however I have gathered quite a bit of evidence and came to the conclusion that she cheated on me a few weeks ago and now that we're broken up she's continuing this relationship with the person she cheated with. I have found hidden stuffed animals, questionable facebook posts and other evidence and she refuses to admit that she is doing anything wrong. I know her so well and know in my heart that she cheated and is still seeing this other girl, but I don't know what else I can do since I have no real proof. I'm sick of all her lies and have realized that she does't respect me enough to tell me the truth and in turn I have lost so much respect for her and can ever see us being friends again. We've been arguing alot lately about this other girl and I have had enough. We have another roommate that lives with us, and for her sake I told myself that I would try to maintain the peace until April and then I will tell my ex how I really feel about her and everything that she's doing. I'm happy to say that even with this devastation, hurt and pain, I have alot of self confidence and know that she does not deserve to have me as a friend.What would you do? Am I making a wise decision in choosing to wait until April to officially end things for good and tell her how I feel about her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2011): If you have.t already done so leave today and have the cheater have her girlfriend pay your portion and if that's not possible leave anyway. Let the cheater cope with it.
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (8 February 2011):
Get shot now. It's your gf's problem not yours.
You seem a decent bloke but don't know how you could be prepared to be around her until April after what's go on, simply because of the lease.
You also have to think of your room mate and it can't be a comfortable situation for her either.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the advice. And you all are right, she doesn't deserve me in her life. We however did get into another argument last night after I found more evidence, and like someone with a guilty conscience, she continued to deny everything and even tried to turn around and place the blame on me saying I just have trust issues. I am just so hurt right now and am disappointed in the person that she really is, but I am glad she showed me her true colors now rather than later.
She will be out of town for a week (to be with her other "girl"), but when she comes back I plan on telling her that although she won't admit it, I know what is going on and that I don't her in my life anymore.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (8 February 2011):
I'd just tell her it's over now and stomach all the tension until April. Pull the rug from under this girl. You don't need to talk to her or have anything to do with her, and the moment she speaks to you, just leave the room and close the door.
Dump her now.
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reader, SUMMERIAN +, writes (8 February 2011):
Dude seriously you need to find someone who is honest with you, and believe me I can totally relate to the issue you are dealing with. Because I'm going through the same thing my self with my bf...If this dude lies about small issues than he's obviously got a bigger issue than I can deal with. That's exactly what's happening to you buddy.Get rid of the loser and find a girl who will be open and honest with you. Because you deserve to be treated that way...Take care and keep your head up make yourself happy !
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reader, kullkat +, writes (8 February 2011):
Obviously you are accurate in your interpretation.Sounds like she has cheated on you or is involved with another. A person who truly loves you will never tell you she needs time or space to figure things out. People in love just don't do that. Think about it, ( would you have told her this)? When you love someone you just don't treat them bad or alienate them. You want to keep them elated and close to you so that you don't them. I think you should just move on but don't be rude to her, because it'll show your weakness. Try not to argue with her, just give her her space but don't show no emotions indicating that you're hurt either. Just pretend she is somebody that you barely know ( you can talk to her but not too much). She obviously doesn't deserve you. Good luck
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