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writes: My bf's parents want to take him and me out to ahve dinner and I'm so nervous. This will be my first one on one with them and I'm freaking out...I hate to admit I'm shy and I tried my best not to be that way around them and talk and be relaxed and I was able to do that for a while, but now I am so ss=cared...me and my bf have been going out for about 8 months and they keep on saying I'm different from the other girls he's dated (in a good way), and I know I am, but I just am not sure what kinds of questiosn they'll ask me and I don't wnat to look dumb or become shy and clam up and have them think I'm a snob or don't wnat to talk to them...how can I relax? what should I talk about? how should I dress? Should I hold his hand or hug him with them around? They are so easy to get along with, and I don't want them to think I can't make conversation or that I'm empty headed...this is a dinner to kind of celebrate my bf's new job and my birthday, and they didn't have to do any of this at all....it's so nice of them, and I just wnat to make sure they know I'm grateful and I appreciate this very nice gesture...can anyone give me advice on how to do this? Thanks
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reader, fairyangel  +, writes (11 February 2006):
 I would say don't dress revealingly or too formally, don't hug or kiss in front of the parents, holding his hand might help for moral support, smile a lot & don't get drunk.
Go & enjoy the dinner together, his parents have had experience of life that you have not yet had, so I am certain that they will put you at ease & you will have nothing to worry about.
Enjoy!
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reader, Bekah +, writes (10 February 2006):
 I've been through this feeling too, it's mortifying isn't it! Well i'll let you into a secret, the moment you sit down at the table, you realise it's not going to be anything like what you would have imagined to happen. My best advice to give is to always be yourself, if you appear shy, don't worry, don't try to hide it by being cocky or over-confident it's a natural feeling that feels great when you settle in and way it goodbye. You say you've been going out with him for a long time, well i wouldn't worry, by now they probably have a good judge of character of you, take it as a compliment that they invited you both, as a couple, they could have quite easily just invited your boyfriend. Hope it all goes ok, and good luck, not that you will need it. the main problem and i know because this is what i felt, you are meeting his parents in a public place, one on one, it's not just a passing comment and exchanging small-talk, you feel vulnerable that they are going to pick you apart, well relax because that isn't on the top of their agenda, as long as their son is happy and they find you pleasant, they really wont mind.Thanks and hope this will help you in some way :D
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reader, chav123 +, writes (10 February 2006):
hi there when ya go on the dinner before talking to them just breath carmly and then say thank you for talking us both out for dinner and then they will probaly say your welcome love and then just start having a conversation with them like ask them if there have had agood day today and what did there do as well just keep carm and don't let them know that you are shy because they will think ya don't like talking ask yourself am I shy around my boyfriend if your not then why be shy around his parents
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