A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 months now but we always run into one problem. I am not a very affectionate person, I never have been. Like I'm just not used to being showered with love and affection and giving it in return. And all he wants from me is to show him how much I love him, because I do, and to just want him more. It's not like I don't want to be affectionate, I just CAN'T. Like no one understands how much it bothers me and how hard it is for me. I want to be able to initiate a kiss or other forms of intimacy but I just shut down and stop myself. It's like I'm afraid of looking like a fool. And when he initiates anything, I'm always slow to respond. I want to be able to express my feelings and love to him and to other people as well without being afraid of them. I cry about it sometimes because I feel like I've failed him as a girlfriend, even though he doesn't ever pressure me to do anything with me. He's so patient and good to me, but at the same time he is a human being and I don't blame him at all for wanting this from me. He deserves this, please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 October 2010):
 Ok darling maybe start out really slowely at first, maybe by giving him a hug and after doing this a few times maybe a wee peck on the cheek or a little stroke of his face. Just take it little by little, and if you find it impossible then maybe you need help in expressing yourself, as maybe there is an underlying problem just waiting to get out. If things dont improve you should get in contact with a councellor as they are professional and they are there to help you, they wont laugh or make fun of you the exact opposite they will help you battle through your anxiety issues. I hope this helps hunnie
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