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writes:Iv been with my partner for a couple of years but I'm beginning to see him in a different light. The problem is he wont use condoms anymore,he says they dont feel right so he suggested I'd go on the pill which i did. Anyway,i have tried 3 different types because the 1st lot gave me depression,then the 2nd lot gave me breakthrough bleeding between my periods and the last ones gave me very sore breasts so now iv come off them altogether because im just not suited to the pill. My boyfriend suggests that i should try a different type but i dont want to. Is he being selfish? I feel like im a guinea pig. I dont want to get pregnant anyway but when he said he would take me to the abortion clinic if i did fall pregnant I was slightly upset, I think I should call it a day, we are both in our early thirties. Am i being over dramatic?
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reader, mystify +, writes (6 January 2006):
 dragging you off for an abortion is not an appriopiate method of contraception!
if he dosent want to wear a condom anymore then that is his issue not yours and i would suggest to him that he get himself down to the docters for the snip (i think there is a reversable way of doing this)
but if he wont and you still want to be with him ,consider the cap, iud coil, femidom, injection, all much better than an abortion
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reader, purrfectionist84 +, writes (5 January 2006):
 If he had no problem using condoms before, then he shouldn't have any problems using them now. He'd rather see you get sick from taking the pill then put on a condom? It does sound like he's being pretty selfish, in my opinion.
No, I don't think that you're being dramatic at all. You have every right to be upset. Try talking about your feelings with him, and if he isn't receptive, then consider ending things. No one deserves to be with a selfish jerk.
In the meantime, whatever you do, don't have unprotected sex with him. The last thing you want, or need, is to end up at an abortion clinic or to give birth to his child. He sounds way too wrapped up in himself to be a good father or husband.
If I were you, I'd tell him that, from now on, we are going to be practicing the most effective form of birth control available: abstinence! And then I'd break up with him. But that's just me. (And you think you're being dramatic!)
Good luck with everything.
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