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writes:I went out with a man that I met online last nite. Weve been chatting quite a while got lots in common. I liked the look of him.got the same ideas bout life what we want etc. And I felt so comfortable when I met him last nite, but when I met him I dont know if I fancy him! He really likes me but I was sitting there thinking.i dont like his teeth, or he has wrinkles when he smiles! I no thats really shallow of me and I wonder why I do it! Ive been hurt in the past badly I wonder if I do it for protection! Hes honestly a lovely bloke. But its like I have so high standards! And I thinking im perfect! But im not! My last boyfriend was gorgeous had the wow factor but treated me like shit! Its like im searching 4 that again! Oh god I need help!
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (5 September 2010):
I don't like judging someone on the first few dates. Yes, if you found them completely unattractive or had no interest in talking to them, then it's unlikely it would work. But generally it isn't love or attraction at first sight. It takes time to grow, and after spending some time together enjoying yourself, you might reevaluate.
When I first met my bf, I didn't find him that attractive, and actually found him slightly annoying. I'd just broken up with an ex that I really cared about, and was just looking for a distraction. But over time, affection and love grew, and now I find him a lot more attractive (look wise and personality wise).
Just take it slow. You might find that nothing comes out of it, but you might find yourself pleasantly surprised one day when you find yourself liking him a lot more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2010): I personally think you should give dude a try everybody has a time when they run across a guy tht can make u feel like the world is at ya feet when their ugly as who shot Bin Laden ! iam not a neck breacker but im still look good i would want to be givin a chance but maybe you need to be more open minded
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reader, CharmedCupid +, writes (4 September 2010):
 hahaha,well,See,what you should do,is sit down and sort ourself out,there is no harm is talking to yourself (Just remember to use your inside voice) because if people heard you....haha well you can imagine. Anyways,Wrinkles are a sweetspot,it's what people look for in a smile,it's what makes a person that much more the cuter,sure his teeth looks like they can tear open a beer can and destroy the pavement BUT remember,they are also a sweetspot, now a high classed girl people do not really like because well,I've came across a good few and they all treated me like crap,they told me i'm ugly and I know I am and they pointed out all my flaws,but I don't care because My flaws are me,and everyone still loves me. But take a bit of advise,just because he does not have the prince charming looks does not mean he does not have the prince charming heart of gold.... Would you prefer to have a babemagnet, a guy that checks out other girls behind your back and treat you like crap,or a fair enough person that thinks the world of you and loves you and only you,for you? Give the guy a chance,you just might find that dispite his flaws,you'd love him for who he is,and how he treats you so special,rather than loving you because your a one night stand and treating you like crap..... If you found my advise was helpfull please feel free to contact me further through private message. xxx
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