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writes:it all started when i was 14 and in school. i then couldnt be bothered to go but then my friends started to turn their backs on me and every time i went to go to school id have panic attacks and wouldnt go, so i ended up leaving and being homeschooled.now im 16 and have no gcses and thinking of going to college to get my key skills, but the thing is because i hated school so much im having doubts and im scared of going to college.does anyone have any advice for me?i live in england by the way.Thanks :) Reply to this Question
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (16 September 2010):
 You live in the UK, I'm not sure what schools are like there but in USA, there's a world of difference between American public school and college. I HATED public school, and I was scared to go to college but in the end I was so glad I did.
One thing I DO know is that if you let fear deter you from experiencing something, then you'll miss out. I'm not referring to a truly dangerous situation... you SHOULD avoid swimming in that ocean with the circling dorsal fins. But, college isn't dangerous- if you use common sense. Just give college a chance, you'll be glad you did.
If you get the chance to study abroad then dammit, do it. Don't let anyone talk you out of it.
(My profile flag is a Spanish flag, I know... that's another story jejeje)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2010): i can relate to how you are feeling. i hardly went to school, overcoming nerves when i started college was a nightmare. since then ive gone to a few different colleges and the nerves do not go away - but i have got more confidence now.
in order to overcome nerves you gotta do what makes you nervous! starting college is nerve racking for everyone (even if they dont show it).
i think you should go for it. if you dont like it, you dont have to stay. but once youve got into the swing of it you might very well love it! it is different to school - it is your choice what you do now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2010): You may have had bad experiences before, but you can only conquer something by doing it more and more, the more you do it the easier it becomes. I guess you have to get to the bottom of what it is you don't like about education and try and overcome it!
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (15 September 2010):
 Usually the best way to overcome fear is to face it head on. Go on some campus visits. Bring your parents along for the first one, then try going by yourself. After all, you're not going to class, so it will be a step. Most of our fears are just in our head. We build them up by giving into them. When they dominate our lives, they've become extremely unhealthy.
Have you been to therapy for the panic attacks? If not, then I suggest you seek some professional help. They may be able to prescribe some anti-anxiety medication that will help you get over the hump.
College is a lot of fun, and a great experience. Your attitude about it will also influence your fear. Focus on the good. Make yourself excited to go.
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