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writes:Well, I am scared to get to close to a guy because I don't want to become hurt again. How do I show I really like him and still not get to close to them? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2010): maybe it would help to just be friends with a host of other people, and kinda just take it slow. Be guarded in what you do. I don't know if this is the correct answer or not, I am just saying maybe it is an idea?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2010): I know what you are going through, and I am a guy. The first real girlfriend that I had we broke up after 2 years. I was crushed. I cried like a baby in front of her, which is unusual for me, to say the least. I have had many girlfriends since then, and have broken it off before it got anywhere. I didn't really realize why, until it finally dawned on me. Now there is a lady I want to be friends with, but terrorfied she will get attached, and I will break up with her. Or worse, there will be a super connection and then she leave me. I truely want to be friends, but afraid of that as well. And it is not an easy answer.
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reader, BrownWolf +, writes (16 July 2010):
 What is the point of showing interest if you don't want to get too close?? You don't want to get hurt, but you are hurting yourself by building up all these "interesting feelings" and then telling your heart NO!. That is like being extermely hungry, have a big plate of food in front of you, but can't reach it.
As long as you learn from the pain what mistakes not to let happen again, then you have won. Life will keep throwing you the same ball of crap, until you learn what to do with it. Like touching a hot stove...Now you know what not to do.
Love is the mnost amazing feeling there is, why would you not want to get close to that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2010): Let me tell you, I am in your shoes right now. It's easy for a person who hasn't had their heart broken or feelings to say things like "Give it a try," or "If it doesn't work out then just move on." Those people have no idea as to what it takes to get over the hurt, shame and crushed feelings of being in love and then being rejected by that love. BUT nevertheless those statements are true to some extent, if you never open up or give half of yourself, you may end up hurting a person who truly does love and care about you because, what will happen is that you will be giving very little while the other person is giving they're all and it will get draining after awhile; that person will come to believe that you don't really love them or apperciate what they do for you. If anything be careful when dating or getting into a relationship with anyone....people will lie to get what they want, and they will do it at your expense without a care in the world. It's sad, but these types of ppl do live amoung us....they get a person all riled up about a relationship only to let you down later on. Also, don't allow your life to be a revolving door for anyone, once the relationship has ended, it has ended....there should be no friendship, no seeing each other every now and thing, no sex, no nothing-just move on. I would sugg. you reading a book by Sherry Argov called "Why Men Love Bitches." I have learned a great deal about how a woman should hold herself while dating so that she doesn't leave empty handed or with her heart broken into peices. There are other relationship books out there too like "He's Just Not That Into You," and "Ten Things Couples Do To Mess Up Their Relationship." You can find all these books on amazon.com. The prices are pretty cheat and you will find alot of advice in these books.
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