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writes: I am very confused about who I am. Give you a history, I grew up going to Church and had beliefs installed in me, I then strayed from the Church around 18 and started going to Gay night clubs and have loads of Gay friends, during that period I did dable with women. Then I would tell myself I'm not but get into relationships with older men one whom I have a 3 year old too. After I had my daughter I returned to Church, but again I have stopped going. If I'm honest a man as hot as Brad pit comes on the TV. I feel nothing but a attractive women appears on screen and yes I feel sexually attracted to her. I know deep down who I am. But I'm scared to come out and say I'm Gay, 100%. When people meet me they assume I'm straight as I have a kid and am very girly. Even had women act possive of their husbands infront of me at Church and elsewhere. I just want to scream at the them I'm Gay, you have nothing to worry about! I just don't know how. I know I'm not with my Daughter's father, I couldn't be. I know that was unfair trying to pretend I was straight. But I can't do it anymore. My Gay friends have always supported me and around them I feel free, like I can be myself but infront of anyone else I can't. Yet I go along to Gay Pride and folk think I'm just supporting the cause, the truth I support it because I am. How do I come out? How do get rid of this assumption that oh she's straight, I know as soon as I'm out and honest, I can't ever go back to Church, not the one I grew up in any.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (18 January 2016):
 http://www.gaychurch.org/
Love who you are. The people that matter will love you back.
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reader, Tiggzy  +, writes (18 January 2016):
 In my opinion times are changing fast and i'm certain it wont be long until some churches are going to be open to people who arnt just straight, at the end of the day people shouldnt judge you for who you are, we all have the same blood, it's not like your an alien because of your sexual orientation.However your situation is still a problem, you have a daughter but, hiding who you are, I know it takes alot of courage to hide that, you can feel depressed and lonely, yes you have friends who support you great but I know how you feel,maybe when you have a chance to set people apart from a crowd tell them individually. I know that when i came out as Bisexual it was hard for me so I told a few friends then i posted on my social media and it spread like wildfire but how you want to do it is really up to you...
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reader, ova-valentine  +, writes (17 January 2016):
 DuplicateYou don't need to be afraid of coming out, people today are far more accepting of gay people. You don't have to go to church. It's okay if you don't go to church, and you can still go if you want to. You can still go to church even though you are gay, if people make fun of you, SO WHAT!! You don't need them in your life!! DON'T BE AFRAID to tell people who you are! If someone tells you something that makes you want to say you are gay, SAY IT. If someone asks you be honest!! GOOD LUCK! 3
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reader, ova-valentine +, writes (17 January 2016):
You don't need to be afraid of coming out, people today are far more accepting of gay people. You don't have to go to church. It's okay if you don't go to church, and you can still go if you want to. You can still go to church even though you are gay, if people make fun of you, SO WHAT!! You don't need them in your life!! DON'T BE AFRAID to tell people who you are! If someone tells you something that makes you want to say you are gay, SAY IT. If someone asks you be honest!! GOOD LUCK! 3
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