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writes:ok so I was goin out with this guy we will call him chris and he start persueing this girl and I found out and I dumped him.But my feelings never went away for him. So now we are goin back out and I'm scared he's cheating on me again. What do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2008): hey, i underdstand where youre coming from on the whole "will he do it again " front; its so easy to think that becuase he has done it once he will do it again, and part of you always thinks he will see me as weak for taking him back so he will just take advantage of that fact and do it again. It can end up driving you nuts because you get paranoid, he realises this after a while and gets frustrated.
My advice would be that everyone deserves a second chance, you were kind enough to give him his second chance, if he blows it it is down to him,you will know you have tried. For now I would just try to enjoy your relationship with him, make sure you talk-communication can make a big difference, perhaps at the right time bring up the subject of how you feel with him, but do it in a way that doesent make it sound like youre accusing him, just remind him what he means to you and your reasons for being concerned are only becuase of the fact you care and from his past actions.
just keep in mind that you were doing him a favour, not the other way round and you deserve a respectful partner who does not cheat or take advantage regardless of what age you are. But if he does prove to be unfaithful, forget him and move on so that you dont make the mistake of forgiving someone too many times when you are young, becuase it makes things worse when you get older. hope this helps :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2008): It says alot about you that you'll get back with a cheater so young
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (11 June 2008):
 If you went back to this guy after he cheated on you, you are only setting yourself up to be cheated on again. Fool me once, so the saying goes.
You will still have feelings for this lad after you dump him - emotions aren't like a switch that you can turn on or off. But you have to realize that a lad who will cheat on you obviously has no respect for you. It'll hurt, be we move on.
Besides, you are only young. There will be other boys, I assure you.
In the meantime, do you have any solid evidence that he is cheating again, or is it just paranoia on your part? Don't make hasty decisions, just be wary. He's stung you once, don't let him do it again.
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