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writes:ok ive been thinking about this for ages and i have on days and off days..about equal amount of time each.ive been with my b4 for just under 2 years and i do love him soo much. But sometimes i feel that we dont completely suit each other, like we have very different friends....i dont like his friends and they dont like me so thats fine but sometimes we find it hard to think of things to do and i gets me to a point where i just overhtink the situation and make it into something massive and wanna leave. I wrote sorta of like a diary and realised that he hasnt changed at all and i used to be madly in love with him but now i find that sometimes what he does annoys me and frustrates me.im not sure where i am at the moment....why do i have all these mixed feelings, i couldnt ever leave him because i love him so much i just want to go bak to how it used to be Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all the feedback guys its helped heaps:)
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (11 June 2008):
 This is so normal and some people reach it sooner than others some are lucky and it either comes later or is not too bad.
Think about your family, do they do things that drive you nuts, I know mine do, but I cant suddenly stop having my mum as my mum or my sister as my sister. You just learn to work with it, ignore it if you can and even avoid situations you know will trigger the annoying behaviour.
Same with relationships, its the bigger picture that matters but what you once found cute and charming is just annoying now. If you truly love this guy and dont want to leave then you have to learn to put up with his faults as well as his good points.
I dont let hubbie drive if we go anywhere as we know it will end in a big row as i HATE his driving, it annoys the pants off me, he doesnt concentrate, surges on and off the accelerator and never uses his gears to slow down just brakes last minute, aaahhhhhhhhh!!! There are probably countless other things that irritate me and I probably irritate him too but we have learned to laugh about it and deal with it. Found out what annoys him about you and turn it into a game by trying to avoid the behaviour in the first place. Good luck x
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reader, Tremor +, writes (11 June 2008):
 I wouldn't fret about it.
You've been with this guy for two years, so the first thrills will be starting to wear away. The rose coloured glasses come off after a while, and you realize that your partner isn't the perfect studly love god you thought he was at the beginning.
Just because you're different people doesn't mean you don't 'suit' each other. Being well suited doesn't necessarily mean you're exactly the same.
Just because you have realized your partner isn't perfect doesn't mean the relationship has to end. Realize that as people change, so do relationships. He's only human, and so are you - hell, there are probably things you dot hat frustrate him. The best thing you can do is talk to him about it. Let him know that some of his actions frustrate you - he may not even realize he's doing it.
It's not always going to be flowers and kittens, but that doesn't mean it's over.
Good luck to you!
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