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writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 6 months but he is going away to college at the end of summer and I'm scared that he'll dump me. Has anyone been through this before?Are there any signs that maybe he won't?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2009): Sorry but i must correct myself as i typoed somehow and it made no sense:
If you spend all your time wprrying that he's going to dump you, you're going to ruin the time you have now.
~SY.
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reader, hijacked_dignity +, writes (16 June 2009):
 I would have to agree with the first response. You need to sit down and have a calm and rational conversation about things. Be honest and ask him what he wants to happen once he is in college. Does he want to split? Does he just want to date casually? Does he want to stay together? The most important part is that you are calm and not emotional about the situation. Don't pressure him to do something that he might not be ready to do. Other than the conversation, I would stop worrying about what MIGHT happen and start enjoying whatever time you have with this guy. That way neither of you are taking it for granted. Good times will definitely cause him to lean toward staying with you. The entire thing is out of your hands in the end, so there is no use worrying.
On a side note, I happen to be the one going to college while my boyfriend works. He always jokes around that I'm going to find someone in my career choice and leave him. I think deep down he is a little worried about it though. So you are definitely not alone. :)
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reader, mts9290 +, writes (16 June 2009):
I went through something very similar a few months ago. My boyfriend is a year older then me and when he graduated high shcool, I was fortunate enough that he decided to go to a Community College so he would still be living at home. But, I went away to college in August 2008. I was so scared. Sometimes I think I was more scared about losing him then I was of actually going to college. I have a few questions for you. You said you two have been together for 6 months, but are you two in love? Have you had a talk about "the future" or what's going to happen when he goes away to college? That's what I did. There's no easier way to get the answer then directly from him. No matter what happens, always remember that everything happens for a reason and if it was meant to be then your relationship will make it through anything and everything.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2009): All I can really say is that if you spend all your time worrying that he's going to dump you, you're going to ruin The best sign you can get comes straight from the source. Just ask him. Somthing like
"Do you plan on continueing our relationship once you go off to college?"
You should give it a try. I think you'll get an honest answer, and it's the best way to put your doubt out of its misery.
~SY.
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