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writes:me and someone who i was dating are still friends and i want to date again but i messed up really bad though i never actually cheated and i relize that i really messed up but i also relized how much im inlove with him he told me that its a possibility that we would go out again in the future and he also says that he loves me but i just scared that in the future he wont wana date me in the future so what addvice can you give me Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2011): The only way to find out is to ask him. How badly did you "mess up?".
If your ex said it was a possibility he'd date you again then give it a shot but don't get your hopes up. Also, he will find it harder to trust you this time and what's going to stop you messing up again?
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reader, dirtball +, writes (14 January 2011):
 "My ex and I are still friends. I want to date him again, but I messed up really badly the last time. Though I never actually cheated, I realize that I really messed up. I also realized that I'm still very much in love with him. He told me that it's a possibility that we would be able to go out again in the future, and he also told me that he still loves me. I'm just scared that in the future he won't want to date me anymore. Is there any advice you could give me?"
You see. I translated your jibberish so people can hopefully understand what you wrote. If you want help, you need to first help yourself by focusing on how you present your thoughts. As an adult, you should at a minimum know how to use punctuation. So, that's my first piece of advice.
My second piece of advice is to move on. It's natural to miss someone after a break up. It's also natural to carry some feelings for them forward, but that doesn't mean you should get back together. Most exes who get back together end up breaking up again, and again, and again. It's a cycle that keeps you from finding a person with whom you can share a real relationship. One that doesn't keep ending.
Any further advice is impossible because you don't tell us what broke you up. We can guess that he suspected you of cheating, and in your head it wasn't. What did you do? Make out with someone? Flirt?
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