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writes:Last June, my high school closed down due to lack of enrollment. It upset me, and honestly, I'm still having a hard time adjusting to the new environment of the high school I am attending now. My friend and I had to go our separate ways. This friend of mine was my teacher, let's call him Mr.A. I loved him , and only God knows how much I do. Yes, I still am in love with him. There was a lot evidence to suggest that he liked me back. I miss him terribly, and one of my friends said he moved far away to teach somewhere else. He was my first real love, though unrequited. Everytime I saw him, my heart would the roof. Everytime I think about him my heart does the same. But now I find myself attracted to a teacher at my new high school. Oddly enough, he looks somewhat like Mr.A. Now I've got the same feeling I have whenever I see or think about Mr.A. Let's call this teacher..Mr.B. Whenever I see him my heart hits the roof. Yesterday I think he caught me smiling at him after lunch, and I think he heard me say "Look who's behind me." to my guy friend on the stair case.I was so embarrassed. I don't want him to know how I feel about him.I want to talk to him so badly, and get to know him, but he's not even teaching me. We've only spoken to each other once, which was the day before christmas break. I gave him a christmas card, and he hugged me.I'm not sure, but I feel as if I am betraying Mr.A. It's weird, because we're not together, and we never were. So it's not wrong that I am getting over him..sort of. I just feel that it's wrong, because what I am really doing is just replacing Mr.A. I'm 18 and anything can happen. Mr.A could return (not likely), and Mr.B could return my feelings.
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reader, Tevote  +, writes (11 January 2009):
 I know exactly what you're going through, i'm actually going through the exact same thing except mine is through mid stage now.
All I can say is, for now you will probably get to know Mr B a lot more and shortly realize that he's nothing like Mr A...You will probably like different things about Mr B and realise that Mr A didn't have the same qualities which makes him unique.
I think that Mr B may return your feelings in time, after all he hugged you-You said you were at a new school and he doesn't teach you...That's pretty much taking a step over a line considering you're still getting to know eachother.
I know that the feelings you have for Mr A will never pass, never leave you. They might just vacate a small space in the back of your mind for a while and Mr B will not replace him, you will just make room for him..
Try not to feel like you're betraying Mr A. I know it's hard to not feel like you are though, after all you've been in love with the man for god knows how long and saying how much he means to you..Then you go and start feeling something for someone else.
I know I know it's actually really frustrating believe me it gets to a really confusing stage soon...But it will all work out for the best honestly! I know it's hard bearing these feelings, just remember to be careful and be yourself.
I know it's hard losing someone you love, they never leave your heart. And some day i'm sure you will see them again!
But focus on the good, if Mr B makes you feel good and happy then let it happen.
But who am I to tell you what to do! Decide for yourself, whatever option you choose will be the best for you :).
Pm me if you want to talk, I have a whole bunch of stories I could tell you if you like :).
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