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writes:i was with a man for six years and he has left me for a women he has known ova 20 years,he is a crack user and hurt me and my kids, i cant get him out of my head, and he is stayin in the same road as me with her, what can i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, kimmym +, writes (15 January 2009):
kimmym is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks 4 that, me and my kids have suffered he left without paying his way, and i am in rent arrears, i ssee a psychiatrist my youngest has been so upset he doesnt sleep well,but now my ex seems to be doin ok with this women hes known for over 20 years, but people tell me it wont last as it spoils the friendship but i do no he still gets crack,he was so lovin before he got involved with her and my older kids r hurtin as well anyway thanks for the advice kim
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reader, dizzikat +, writes (11 January 2009):
There are a lot of serious issues going on here in your short post.
The most important point is that you & your kids must be safe & be able to live in a safe environment.
Be honest with yourself, whether he's always been a crack user the whole time you've known him or not, the fact that he is now means you can not be his priority. Conversely just because you can understand this does not make the situation any easier.
You need a lot of support right now, are there people you trust? Close friends? Any family? What about your kids' friends' parents? There are a lot of support networks out there for single parents especially online, there are also single parent holidays & organised days out for you to look into to get away from the street.
The fact that you are brutally honest about your ex's habits means you are not prepared to skirt round the details with anyone you choose to confide in; not everyone you encounter may be as realistic as you. If you do encounter any odd reactions remember it is not your fault, nor theirs really, they just don't have experience of dealing with these issues.
Finally, if your home is rented can you apply to the landlord or council for any alternative properties? You are obviously the strong one it won't hurt you or your kids to move in the long run.
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