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writes:I'm really worried about my sister, shes a few years younger than me and this time last year her boyfriend of a year (who she has known all of her life) cheated on her with her best friend and she was completely devastated. Me and my family thought she was never going to get over it, she locked herself away from the world and just cried her heart out. SHe went to see a consellor and they put her on anti-depressants and she eventually got over him..The in April she met someone else and fell totally head over heels with him, however 2 months on he ended the relationship without giving her a reason and she went back to being that broken hearted girl we once saw... We took her out of the house to the cinema, for dinner etc and we thought she was on the mend again and she eventually started smiling again however a few weeks ago, she just got so low that we had to watch over her day and night. She said she is just so depressed that she doesn't want to go out to places where people are because she doesn't like big crowds. I really don't want her to go the way she went the first time round, is there any suggestions what i should do as a sister to help her?? I ask her everyday how she is, and if she wants to talk about anything. Go long walks with her and sit in with a few dvds so she is not sitting in on her own.. But i feel this is not enough..
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou all so much for your advice, i know that i can't fully help her to snap out of it but i just hate sitting watching her sad and not know what to do to make her feel better. I ask her if she is ok and she just replys yeah im fine. hopefully the doctors will have given her the right treatment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2010): Everything that has been advised here is good advice. I will also advise that you zoom in on the cause of her depression being failed relationships. How about giving her some insight into healthy dating with the most important instruction being HOW TO SPOT AND RUN FROM SKUMBAGS. It seems that what she had.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2010): Your sister is lucky to have you in her life that you care so much for her. Ask her what she thinks she needs. Talk to her about the last time when she was depressed and ask her to tell you what worked for her then to help her get back to normal. Above all, listen to her. Creating circumstances that encourage her to talk such as long walks are a good idea, though silence is fine too as long as you are present with her, it is supportive. Fun things such as dvd's or activities which allow her to play and laugh are good too. Your love is all the help she needs.
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reader, Corysbaby13  +, writes (6 December 2010):
Is she in her early teen age years? I was really upset when I got broke up with in my first long ( 3 month) realationship. she may look up to you being her sister and she doesnt want to tell you that there is something wrong bc you may show her that you are strong and you dont get upset. My younger cousin was on anti depression pills and she was very lifeless. she still didnt do anything after wards and they changed her meds and she never changed. She also maybe getting picked on at school and doesnt know how to stand up for her self or doesnt want to get in trouble. By the relationships ended it could have been peer pressure. He could have dumped her bc she wouuldnt do things or something happened at school. You may want to try and get he a journal or a diary to see if you could get her to write in it then when she goes off to school you can maybe find more out. Or if she has a diary you may want to just read it just to make sure she isnnt suicidle. You do need to watch her closely bc she may get suicidle. I hope this helps.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (6 December 2010):
 Is she still going to therapy and on her depression medication? Perhaps the doctor needs to prescribe her a different anti-depressant, there's so many out there what she is on may not be working for her. She's depressed, there's not much you can do..just make sure she is taking her medication regularly and still seeing her therapist. This isn't a case of where her sister/friend/whoever can make everything bad go away and for her to stop hurting. It's a condition she has, that has got to be maintained, she can't just snap out of it. Her sitting at home all the time, and not going out into public is a typical symptom of depression. Just continue doing your sisterly duties, that's all you can do.
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