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writes:Okay here goes. I have gotten to know a man lately that I first met 2 summers ago. My daughter is involved in theatre and he use to hang around during rehearsals in the hallway and would always come to all the performances. I would always be in the hall doing bios and running the concessions/ticket sales etc. Last summer he even came to a fund raiser and ended up bowling with us. I saw him in the spring at a play and he told me he was going to be in the groups next production. I was having money issues and wasn't going to go, but he volunteered to buy me and my kids tickets so we could see it. He also came to see my daughter in her play. We ended up being fb friends and would chat sometimes for hours (2-3) I found out that we had a lot in common. We are both divorced and have two kids, love coffee just to begin with. He would always either like or comment on most if not all of my posts. I even posted something about having a bad day and he asked me if I was alright and we chatted for about 3 hours online. He appeared to me that he liked me would pace back and forth when we would be talking and standing. He would be constantly playing with his beard etc. When we saw him in the play he ended up getting us tickets that were right where we could see him on stage. When the play was over, and we waited for everyone to come out he came and talked to me the entire time. He also has done other favors for me like when my daughter sprained her ankle he offered to loan us crutches and even dropped him off at our house. We'll I was really beginning to think that he liked me and was beginning to like him. One of my friends went to the play that he was in and saw him at the bar (after the show sitting by himself). She struck up a conversation with him and mentioned my name. She told me his eyes lit up when my name was mentioned. I was pretty sure that he liked me then. My daughter and a few friends I told were also convinced that he liked me from what I told them. I finally with the urging of my daughter decided to tell him how I felt. I told him that I thought he was very sweet, handsome and that I like him. I asked what he thought about me? He sent me a message asking me please to call him with his number. I called him and we spoke about 3 hours, but I didn't ask him how I felt. I later on sent him a message and he wrote to me that I was nice, kind, caring and a great mom. He valued our friendship and hope he didn't lead me on. I was like what? Was I reading his signals all wrong? I don't think so. He might be not telling the truth and if he is I'm not intending to wait around for him to decide to tell me the truth or when he is ready. I'm ready to date and get on with my life. Would appreciate any comments. What do you think? I'm really mad because I feel that he was leading me on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2012): I have an update. I got over being mad at him and he said he never intended to lead me on. He still likes most of my posts on fb etc. He started up a chat with me a few weeks ago and I asked him what he was doing over the weekend. I had a date, a set up by a friend. He went on to say that he thought I should get out. He then asked me out for coffee and went on to say he didn't know if it was to vent, comment etc. It was the night before my date. He then went on to ask me for coffee later on in that week. I told him no both times. I'm to the point of realizing that he needs to work on his issues and probably shouldn't be dating. I confided in one of my friends and she said it was very typical. I don't want to play games with him. He is now interested in me big deal he had two years to ask me out. I'm not going to wait around for him to ask me out. I have waited enough for things in my life. I went on my second day with this new guy and he is a lot of fun, smart, funny and am enjoying getting to know him :)Thanks for the advice :)
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reader, Candid Cally +, writes (2 September 2012):
I do remember you asking a question about him before: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-get-the-vibe-that-he-likes-me54.html
If he is indeed, 'very shy' you will have to make your intentions known. You will have to explain to him that you are interested in dating and find out if he is ready to as well. It is very possible that he does not think he has a chance with you and is avoiding being hurt by taking the possibility of an intimate romantic relationship off the table.
You both seem to chat for hours at a time. I think it is time that you chat about this.
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