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writes:Okay, so this is a very simple story. I am extremely into my best friends ex. We were really good friends while they were dating, and she brought us closer. I always found myself helping them out, and literally being to solution to their problems. But even as they were dating, I always found myself attracted to him. We are so much alike. The sarcasm, and the craziness. We are both cringey, and stupid, and i never felt so free with someone. And when they broke up, they swore they were over eachother. But then he asked me to hang out, and since that day, i Knew that this was something I wanted. We both have this weird sexual attraction to eachother, it's just he's more open about his. At first this was onesided, but lateley he's showing good interests in me, giving alot of compliments, and being very kind. He says all the time, that he respects me, and always points out how i'm 'Not his type' and says that he deserves better. We would be so amazing together, but shes' my best friend and noone ever came before her, but now i'm letting her ex? Should i go for him? Or should i stay with my bestfriend, before everything goes sour.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 April 2018):
 Honestly if you valued your friendship at all you would not even be considering this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2018): Why do you want somebody's leftovers? Is it so hard to find someone on your own; you've got to go after your best friend's ex?
It comes across as a bit anxious that you're so ready; while it has only been but a month that they broke-up?
The derogatory term that would be used in such a case is "thirsty!"
She just had to ditch him; and you're waiting with a broom and a shovel to scoop him up.
Girlfriend, have you no dignity?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (28 March 2018):
 So, is he right? Can you do better and deserve better?
There is usually more into a break up than, they are just not into each other any more, especially if they "supposedly" despise each other.... Know what I mean?
Also, if you ALL share the same friends group, don't you think it's a little awkward? If you two do not work out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2018): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAlso, they broke up because they just werent into eachother anymore. They've been broken up for about a month, and yes we are friends, but they don't hang out anymore. They rather kind of despise eachother.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2018): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah, you're right. I mean to say that he says he's not my type and that I deserve better, sorry for the confusion.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (28 March 2018):
Have you asked how your friend feel about this?
How long have they been broken up?
And what broken them up?
And while you two have banter and sexual attraction, how is it a nice thing for him to point how HOW you are not his type and how He deserves better? How is that "charming"?
I think in general it's not a smart thing to be chasing after friend's exes. Especially if all of you spend a lot of time together.
But IF your friend IS your best friend, I think you need to have a chat with her.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (28 March 2018):
 He says that you're not his type and that he deserves better? Either you've said it wrong and you meant to say that he says that YOU deserve better or you are just not getting the point. He couldn't be more clear when he says you're not his type and not just that, apparently you're so bad that he deserves better. Wow! Even if someone said this to me in jest, they would be shown the door in no time. And you still want to date him?
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