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writes:I really need some help right now, as no one is taking me seriously. I am depressed and never stop crying. I think about committing suicide all the time and most days, can't even bear to get up in a morning, even though I hardly sleep anymore anyway.I'm a student and it's making me really unhappy. I feel like there's never going to be an end to this revision, exams, results etc and I know it sounds really pathetic, as many people are students and manage just fine, I just don't think it's for me. I alays put too much pressure on myself and, although I always do well in exams, the revision beforehand is just awful. I think it's just a waste of 3 months of every year.I'm a clever person but I just have no motivation anymore. It's as if I've given up. I've looked for jobs if I do quit university but it just feels like there's nothing out there for me at all.I just want to be happy and the only reason I'm still at uni is because I can't let people down (family etc). I know they'll be so disappointed if I quit but can I spend my life doing something that makes me this low for other people? Also, I feel like I have to prove people wrong who've doubted me in the past, but that's no reason to carry on either, is it?Please help, I feel awful right now.
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reader, Beautiful_Suicide +, writes (14 April 2006):
 I have the same problem...I recently saw someone about it and it's not uncommon aparently..I'm in high school and I hate it..I cry every morning I never sleep and yeah I just hate it..but no-one is very sympathetic about it to be honest..the way I try and deal with it is to make lists of good things that happened when I get home from school..and I try and like give myself rewards if I don't moan or cry or whatever..and I try and break up the time..so like "ok this is only gonna last an hour..half an hour..ten minutes" it keeps my brain focused and reminds me that there will be an end..also you could make like a count down calender that's what i do at the beginning of the term..remember it won't be forever..woah sorry I wrote loads..I hope it helps -- Sass x oh ps the sleeping thing try getting some herbal pills they work for me...or if that doesnt work get some stronger ones from your doctor..and make yourself go to bed at a regular time..the doctor told me "it takes will power" which I haven't really got but yeah ^^
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2006): Hey there,Believe me when I say I have an idea what you are going through. I am a university student who has been at university for almost 4 years and it is rough. The last two days I did not go to school, I am having diificulty preparimg for exams and finishing my papers. I felt like giving up. But at the end of it all, we have gotten this far, we cannot give up now. Please persevere and continue to believe in your self. Rememeber that whatever worth holding onto or fighting for never comes esay. LET US TAKE IT ONE DAY AT A TIME. ALL THE BEST.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2006): Hi there,
Your pain makes me sad. Losing your motivation and not understanding your direction is really hard. Its not pathetic. You are just having a hard time figuring things out.
I have faith that you can get through this and things will get better, but I think maybe its time to get a little help. Its good that you posted on this website, but please go visit your doctor and tell him or her how you are feeling. From what you said it sounds as if you are really depressed and there are people out there who can help you. The doctor is a good place to start, or there is probably a health centre at the university. They are confidential, and there to help you figure out your way. Good luck and post again if things get worse.
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reader, bridget +, writes (11 April 2006):
 Hey there anon..
I really understand how you feel and you are right you cant just do things because it makes your family proud or other people respect you when the truth is they are happy seeing you do something with your life but they will respect you more if you actually do something for you and become that bit more independant..
Yeah University can be stressful, College was stressful for me, but Uni is not all smiles and graduates they can be dreaded timnes aswell and I completely agree with Angelicc's idea to take a gap year..
Some courses taht University offers allow you to take 1 Year out to get money or travel and then you go back with a clearer head and study again.. I personally think it is a brilliant idea as it gives the students more of a chance to be Graduates...
Please do consider this as you said yourself you are a clever person but I hope that you realise that if you carry on with yopur course and be continously unhappy, then your feelings will only get worse and you will only feel more unhappy, it is because you are not doing anything that you are happy with now and you should be...
Good Luck
Jacqueline
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reader, Angelicc +, writes (11 April 2006):
 What you need to do is take breaks, if Uni is bringing you so much stress take a gap year. Do some travelling,
Good to Africa and build help build a home
or There are orgnazations that well send you to africa, new zealand, usa just for as little as £3000 for about 6-18 months just you can help teacher children (teaching then a subject you know well).
There’s some much you could do just try anything to take your mind of Uni. Just pick
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