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writes:i am so confused right now and need some advise and have been awake since 8.00 yesterday thinking about it i was curios about some thoughts i had about men so i talked to one of my gay friends about it and he told me to try fantasizing about it i did and found out that it is a turn on for me so i started masturbating but i still say to myself that i am straight i still like girls i think my bloody hands are shaking as i type this my head is so messed up at this moment in time what the hell is going on ? can i get some advise from a gay/bi person please did you go thought this am i a bit gay ??? Reply to this Question
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reader, Farris +, writes (26 February 2007):
 Be whatever you are!! These days, so long as you're practising safe sex, no one cares. The more experimentation you make, the more you'll understand yourself.
I know loads of people that fantasise about both sexes, but only ever date one... For example, I have dated both guys and girls, but I can ONLY ever see myself settling down in the long run with a guy. I just call myself bi-curious.
Please don't fret over this kind of thing. Just let your feelings be what they are and accept them. Stay true.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2007): It doesn't matter. At your age, you may want to label everything... [ponders] No, this hasn't much to do with age actually. A lot of people like to label things, but hey, sex is sex. If you're attracted to males, females, both at the same time, curious about them, etc, etc, then whatever. When you're old and wrinkly, sipping your spiked lemonade, sitting on a lawn chair, watching the seagulls, maybe you can think about stuff, but until then, it seriously doesn't matter. It shouldn't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2007): Why should you have to be anything? If you can, just relax and don't make a decision now. Right now at your age is where you find yourself, but try to postpone this particular decision at this time. Then again, you never know. Maybe you will enjoy both sexes.
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reader, mum2be +, writes (26 February 2007):
I am not gay or bi, but i just wanted to say, you are still young and it is perfectly normal for you to fanatsize about the opposite sex!!! If you are really worried, try going out with a male, and see how you respond to it. Then, try going out with a female. If you prefered the gay relationship, then consider your self gay, if you prefered the straight relationship, then call yourself straight, and if you didnt mind, your bi.Dont label yourself though, your feelings are likely to cange soon, and if they don't, then you can be happy with who you are!All the best, honeyxxx
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