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writes:I asked him to go on an errand with me but he said "we'll see". Should I ask him again or just let it go?we have great chemistry at work and I can tell from his body language that he's somewhat interested in me (being conservative in my assessment here) even if I catch him looking at me and smile at me when our eyes meet. Or we'd tease a lot and share intellectual conversations. I'm really attracted to him but he hasn't made a move. What should I do? Should I just let it go? maybe its not going anywhere bec. Were both in a relationship. Do you think he likes me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for all for your opinions. I was hoping to get your answers before it happened. Well, against all of your advices, I ended up asking him day of. I don't know if he remembered or forgot but I asked again if he was going to go with me today and he was like "oh ok, I can come." I don't know what changed.
Anyways, we just went and nothing really extraordinary happened from his end except that he definitely acts different when it's just the two of us. He's more serious and is concerned about me. I tried to make him laugh while we finish my errands to make light of it. He did the right things for someone who is in a relationship, so I have concluded that he is just being a "friend".
I liked his company and yes I have issues on my relationship but after this incident, I have decided to let this go. No need to bring him into my own personal issues. I really like him but I'd rather be friends with him than lose him altogether.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2014): You're both in relationships!!! Try starting with that. If you are in a relationship, don't worry about meeting new people. If you want to meet new people, then break up with your significant other. You need time in between relationships for it to work out anyway.
Of course he is not going to make a move. If he is a decent human being, he will not make a move. If he does make a move, he is scum and will probably keep making moves on other women while he is with you. If you keep hoping he will make a
move while you are both with other people, you deserve him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2014): You're both in relationships, and whether he is attracted to you or not doesn't really matter. If he hasn't made a move, perhaps it's because.... you're both in relationships?
He may like you. That's all. He may have no romantic attraction accept; if a woman throws herself at him, he might be tempted to take advantage of the opportunity. Or...maybe not! He just may be faithful to his partner. I know women don't believe that's possible. You may have met your proof.
Now go analyze and assess your relationship; and determine what has you wondering if another woman's man likes you, instead of your own?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (16 August 2014):
 So where, in your opinion, does your boyfriend/husband fit into this situation? Do you have children? Do you like your job?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2014): Yes. Because it only means his not interested. If a guy is interested its easy as 123. He will tell u and shower you with attention. Helping you will be something he will love and enjoy to do for you.
If his making u wait. Its nothing. So just move on. Remember if a man is really into u nothing can make him stop hi. to be with you. Not his wife, not his gf nor his work or whatever.
Its actually an opinion from my cousin.who is a guy.....
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reader, like I see it +, writes (16 August 2014):
 Whether he likes you or not is irrelevant - it seems he likes the relationship he is currently in too much to jeopardize it by getting involved with you.
You should absolutely let it go - given that it's happening in your workplace, if he gets tired of your attention or worries his girlfriend may find out, he could easily turn around and say you've been harassing him. You may be willing to risk the relationship you say you are currently in, but what about your job and your professional reputation?
Meanwhile, it would be wise to take a good look at your own relationship and identify what about it could be strengthened or improved so that you aren't looking elsewhere for validation from men.
Good luck and best wishes.
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