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I'm ready to introduce sex back into our marriage...How do I approach my wife?

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Question - (6 November 2009) 1 Answers - (Newest, 7 November 2009)
A male United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Ridiculously, we have let our marriage slip into a nearly sexless funk for 2+ years. Our second child was born in January and we've only been intimate a couple of times since she conceived. We've always been pretty low on the libido front, our max has been once a week, but I am so ready to get back into things that I would be pretty happy with once a day. There's been a lot going on in our lives, our baby was struggling at first ("failure to thrive", a dreaded label especially when you are breastfeeding because it gave my wife the feeling that it was her fault, which it was not, it was allergy) and that was very stressful, but he is in great shape now. But we got out of any sort of routine and I'm having trouble aven approaching her for sex. The couple of tiems we did have sex were pretty painful for her. Please tell me that it can work out from this point, I'm afraid once we start I won't want to stop and she won't be ready for it.

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A female reader, QuirkLady United States +, writes (7 November 2009):

QuirkLady agony auntIt can all work out fine.

If you want some at 10pm (and it's been a while and stressful, like what's going on with you) you have to start work at 9 am. Help with the children, bring your wife flowers and compliment her, make everyone feel special - that kind of thing. At night tell your wife that you enjoy her being your partner and that you work so well together. Cuddle her and kiss her and hopefully it takes off from there.

Good luck!

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