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writes:Dear Agony Aunts,I'm 16 and entering my junior year in high school. My sophomore year I spent 9 months dating this guy who I really had feelings for. We broke up in April and I was really down and missed him. In June he confessed that he was still in love with me. All summer we've been on a rollercoaster. We hooked up a lot and each time I said that I didn't have feelings for him. I am a virgin, however. I am in love with this boy and we have finally started dating again. He's definetely proved that he loves me. When we were dating last year, I decided I was ready to have sex with him. It never happened and I'm glad it didn't because I was definetely not ready for that. This boy is now a freshman in college and things are going well for us. I'm ready to have sex with him but very intimidated by how much more experienced he is than me. I've talked to him about this and be says we will only do it if I'm ready and if we try and I change my mind then we can just cuddle instead. I'm definetely ready. Any advice on how I can not be intimidated by his past? Any advice in general?Oh and I do know all about contraceptives.
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reader, meganutts +, writes (6 September 2009):
 Ahhh the old losing the virginity bit. Well, let me get straight into it then. First and foremost, stop being intimidated. The fact that he has experience can work in your favor in terms of him being seasoned enough that he can last longer than the average guy while inside, giving you more pleasure and possible orgasm. Second, make sure your sure you wanna do this. I mean there your no do overs in sex, once its done, its done and the virginity is gone. Third, make sure he's worth it, I don't care how good his sex, if his heart is in a bad place, you may be setting urself up for failure. And fourthly, use condoms, or a pill or sumthing. DO NOT LET HIM HAVE SEX WITH YOU WITHOUT PROTECTION UNTIL HE PUTS A RING ON UR FINGER. Relax, enjoy yourself, he's not all that experienced that he's not going to be nervous too. Take it slow. Very slow.
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reader, hearrtbrrokengirrl +, writes (5 September 2009):
Well, he sounds like a really nice guy, and that he wouldn't mind your non-experience. I'm sure he would understand, and not push you to do stuff you're not ready for since you're a virgin, and if he does then you shouldn't be with him in the first place. Just dont worry about it, you'll be fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2009): Well, it's good news, If he's experienced he'll show you a good time. This is much better than having a fumble with someone who is clueless. He sounds like a nice bloke, Just relax and enjoy it and be glad you know this person well. Should be a good experience. Some of the best sex I've had has been with experienced men. Practice makes perfect. Good luck and enjoy.x
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