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writes:ive been with my boyfriend for 3 weeks and i am ready to do stuff. thing is i have never givern a handjob or blowjob - even tho he thinks i have! my friends say its fine, but readin some of the questions and answers on here have really made me nervous. i cant ask him how he likes to be tossed of! please help me, also how do you give someone a decent blowjob without choking? i am really scared as things are goin to happen quite soon and i am realy scared i am guna muck up. please help me xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2008): Just relax, tease him by running your fingers lightly above his boxers, then grab the head off his penis firmly and go up and down moving the skin on his penis not ur hand. increasing the pace as it feels right for u..!! u could also try holding or tickling his balls at the same time with ur other hand.. good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2008): You're way too young - stop getting carried away with yourself!
And what?!! 3 weeks?! Stop rushing hun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008): To those saying she's too young, that's hers to decide, and not something she asked you to help with, the point of this site is to help people with what they ask, not berate them or leverage your view on them.
That said, telling him the truth is -really- an easy option here, most guys will _flat out love_ the idea that you're the first that they've gone this far with, just ask him how to do it, and follow his lead.
If you really don't want to tell him that, it's not hard to do, use some lubrication, the best being spit, but if that bothers you, try massage oil or baby oil or vasoline or even shampoo. Handjobs are terribly easy to do, just grip and go up and down, focus on the head, and make sure to get some lubrication underneath the head, also if you're comfortable with it, a transition method is to lick and suck just a little bit during a handjob, it'll get you used to the texture and taste and lead you to a more confident blowjob at some point.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2007): okay well im 13 and im having this exact problem with my boyfriend.Im like scared that im going to mess up or something and be totally embarassed. But He keeps on telling me, "You cant really Mess up.. you'll do fine. i promise"So dont think that your alone on this one.And to most people below me... her age has nothing to do with it.if she thinks and feels that shes ready, thats her choice. Not Yours.Just dont Bite and you'll Be fine. =] Lol.
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reader, Dawnie +, writes (27 December 2007):
 Three weeks is not long to be dating someone.
Your age worries me too, you are very young to be thinking about pleasuring someone and i would urge you to wait until you are a few years older at the very least. You have plenty of time in the future to be in a sexual relationship, make the most of what you have now. Spend time with your friends/family and enjoy yourself.Most importantly be a teenager and not a woman. Hope this helps.
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reader, BadVoice  +, writes (27 December 2007):
Three weeks? you are ready after only 3 weeks? I would ask you to wait at least 6 months because of your age. If he can't wait that long, then forget him.
BIG REGGIE
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reader, x-Happy-Feet-x +, writes (27 December 2007):
 look 3 weeks isnt alot hun im round about the same age as you and i would say im experienced being with him 1 year but im mature with this i think with a decent handjob just go with the flow look at him my boy likes it best wen my hands wett and just move your hand up and down normally as for the blowjob just have it in your mouth and bring your mouth out and just lick the top and around the side and he should love it x hope this helps but im trying to give you a message just weight till a bit more time and can you trust him he might go and tell everyone rumours are really harmfull
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reader, dc.ryan +, writes (27 December 2007):
 Hello,
First up; calm down - its all a learning process, and we all went through it at some stage!
Hand jobs are probably the easiest things to do in any sexually active relationship, I think kissing is more advanced than a handjob. They are very easy, you simply wrap your fingers around the shaft of his penis and move your hand up and down - this where you need to start asking him how he likes it, does he want you want to grip harder, faster speed, slower or softer - its important to communicate with your partner.
Blowjobs are slightly harder, and may take a couple of attempts to get good at - although I still wouldn't worry about it, unfortunately being a guy I can't give you much insight into this as I've never done it! I'm sure someone else will add something to this for you.
Just remember its all a learning curve, and practice makes perfect - just ask him how he wants things done, and ensure you get something just as special in return! Perhaps it would be wise to tell your boyfriend that you haven't got much experience, and that you are nervous - being a loving boyfriend, he'll happily accept this.
Don't worry, it'll be fine - promise! Although I'm not sure at age 13-15 it would be appropiate to be delivering such intimate actions, but of course as long as you feel ready and not pressured I suppose its fine.
Ryan
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