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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have been with my girlfriend now for 7 months.She says she really enjoys been with me and is really happy.I love her so much i tell her often how i feel that i think she i beautiful and she means the world to me.But im starting to lose interest in her,as she never shows me any affection,never tells me how she feels about me.When we go out the cinema she wont let me hold her hand or put my arm round her.And she seems to put everything in front of me like a couple of weeks ago i asked her about a week in advance if she would stay at my house that weekend,i asked in advance so i could get in early when she has no plans made.But she said il see what im doing,when the weekend came she went out with her friends they made plans like 5 minutes before she was due to come to my house,then when i asked her when you coming round she said im not im going out with friends.I said i was annoyed she turned it back on me as if im the bad guy!also shes constantly talking about actors and singers she likes,i no its normal to have celebrity crushes,but shes always saying how much she loves such and such and oh hes so sexy.its too much for me.Then when i say to her about it all she says is wise im never going to have him.Im like "its not the point you say it all the time how do you think it makes me feel?" i feel like throwing in the towel ive had enough .anyone any advice on where i should go from here try and work it out or pack it in?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2012): so she doesn't show affection to you, and she ignores your plans to go out with her friends. Sounds to me like she doesn't consider herself to be in a relationship with you. So you should start assuming the same and break up with her already. i'm guessing she doesn't consider herself as being in a relationship, but she likes the sense of power over having control of your emotions and your time.
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reader, eek +, writes (27 March 2012):
 it sounds like she does not love you. Your more of a convenience to her.
'never allow someone to be ur priority while allowing urself to be their option'
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reader, nevahopi  +, writes (27 March 2012):
Maybe she is not comfortable with public displays of affection but unlikely...it seems like she is not ready for a serious relationship with anyone. She may have realized she's just not that into you but too cowardly to talk to you about it so she'd rather make you leave her than her having to break it off with you. She is obviously working hard at pushing you away to point where you are. She doesn't want to break it off because she doesn't want to be the heart breaker, she wants you to be the bad guy!Another thought..she may have gotten turned off if you tell her you love her, she means the world to you and she's beautiful all the time. Try not to do this too much, it can be overkill for some women. I know, I know, we are so complex but once in a while saying these things is fine but when it's constant, it starts to lose it's meaning. I think if you are a mature male, which you seem to be, you need to throw that towel!!! You deserve better and you need to be respected by someone who will appreciate you minus her drama. Your girlfriend obviously doesn't respect you and doesn't make you a priority in her relationships so I doubt she really loves you even though she may say she does. I wish you the best and never forget you deserve the best!
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