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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have been having intense feelings for this girl for about six months now at least. When I first developed feelings for her, she had a serious girlfriend so I didn't act upon my feelings. But recently she has split with that girlfriend and since then we have discovered we both have feelings for each other. We started hanging out more, we began kissing and next thing I knew we were having sex on almost a daily basis. We were both dumb, perhaps, for having sex and rushing into things too fast. But I think we were so taken with our feelings that we weren't thinking. She has made it clear to me though that she is not looking for anything serious right now because she just got out of a three year relationship, and I understand that. But I have been single for a long time and I desire a relationship. I really really really like her, so much that it hurts sometimes. It's very hard coming to terms with the fact that she doesn't want to be with me. She has told me that when she is ready for a relationship she will let me know. But...I have a feeling that nothing will ever come of it. We hang out in the same circle of friends so it's almost impossible to just cut her out of my life. We had a talk a few days ago and we agreed to stop seeing each other because we both want different things. I feel like things are awkward between us now. We used to be such good friends but things are just strange now. I miss being able to hang out with her and talk to her the way I used to. I just care about her so much and I want to be there for her. Ok, after that long explanation, here is my question: What should I do? Should I remain friends with her and hope that someday she changes her mind? Or should I move on? If so, how do I get over her? How do I move on? I feel like I will always long for her and it makes me really sad. I don't have much experience with relationships so I would appreciate some advice. Thank you for taking the time to read this!
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (30 May 2010):
 Yes I know what you mean I've been in that kind of situaion before too. Honestly I would remain aquaintances only with her and move on to find happiness with someone who can return it to you. That way you are not going to feel so gutted every day. Positive action helps alot when you are feeling down.
Good luck doll it'll all be ok in the end.
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