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writes:So, I've known my boyfriend for 5 years now. He's been my best friend for a year and we got together almost 6 months ago.It was all good for about 3 months, then I started questioning my feelings (partly because of the sex - I've never came and he acts so selfish during the whole thing). And i'd like to point out that I've never been "in love" with him - I mean the butterflies in my belly and all that jazz.Plus, it is the same every time we go out - we talk about the same things, go to the same places, eat the same food. We even go out at the same time of the day.I like him very much, but I think he's more of a best friend than anything else. We make jokes like best friends, poke each other like best friends and everything. On the other hand, he's so deeply in love with me...and I am freakin' confused.What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2011): Thank you so much, you are right, that's the problem! I'll try adding some spice and everything. As soon as possible!
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (8 September 2011):
 Well, you may just be dating your best friend. I did that for awhile. We had zero chemistry, but I loved him to death and he really SUPER loved me... so I had a good friend and a fella I could call my boyfriend. But I was never really into him... so that could be your problem.
Or maybe you're just stuck in a rut and you need to add more variety and spice to your relationship. Get out of the same ol' routine! Go someplace new! Eat some Thai food or Mongolian BBQ or something. Doing new things will foster lots of new conversation. And maybe it will even get some new sparks flying between you two...
Put in some effort before you call this relationship dead. If changing things up and doing some new exciting things in your relationship doesn't get your motor running about this guy, then maybe it's time to reconsider the relationship. Good luck, sweet!
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