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writes:I think my boyfriend is cheated on me?For the last week or two ive been having over time and my boyfriend doesnt want me to really go to his baseball games as much anymore and when he gets off work earlier than me hes always out somewhere one day I came home early and he wasnt home and unreachable he said he was at the casino and other times hes missing for hours hours and doesnt take my calls or messages and when he finally gets back he says his phone died which seems to be happening pretty often when hes not with me. Just last night right after work he said hes going to his uncles house and he will prob be back at 12 30am I found his uncles address that he doesnt know about and went to see if he was there but no sign of his car he said his uncle made him food at home. So I questioned him last night and he actually talked to me when he would usually get angry for questioning anything. He has not been paying for any rent at all and ive been paying everything. Today he seems to be treating me nicer than normal and said its his payday asking me if I want to go have dinner, otherwise he has been saying he doesnt have any money. I have a big feeling that he was with a girl last night. What should I do I dont want him to get away with it. Should I hold a watch out and get more evidence and then spring it on him or what should I do I know he is lying to me he sounded happy coming home yesterday and right when I openes the door he handed me something that would look like its from his aunt and uncle, which feels like a guilt thing and being really nice unusually today
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (16 July 2014):
 how about if you make him pay half the bills instead so he can't afford the girl on the side and you...
then he will move out and you won't have to know...
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (15 July 2014):
 Maybe it's the mood I'm in today, but I say toy with him for a bit. Maybe sweat him a little. He knows you suspect something, and is doing what he thinks he has to do to pacify you. Since he seems so amenable, you could use it to your own advantage.
While you're doing this, you could get your ducks in a row and when you're ready, leave.
So, to answer your question, yes, it does sound like he's up to something and I doubt it's a surprise birthday party for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2014): Never mind the cheating, the freeloading is bad enough. He has money to put gas in his car and hang out at the casino but he doesn't have any for rent? What, is he giving it to his chick on the side? Get rid of this loser for your own good.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (15 July 2014):
 Younglady you are being played for a fool. Now's the time to regain your self respect! Get on with your life elsewhere!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2014): You pay all the bills, and now you wonder if your boyfriend is cheating on you?
Well, you have sufficient evidence. You've played dumb to his using you; now you're going to play dumb to his cheating? Girlfriend, we both know you're smarter than that!
Hell yeah! You confront him with the evidence and you pick his lies apart with the truth.
No matter what explanation he has, STOP PAYING THE BILLS ALL BY YOURSELF!!! What the Sam Hill is the matter with you? He's got a free meal-ticket, and now he's sneaking around. If you didn't have incriminating-evidence, you wouldn't have to confront him.
You're only hesitating; because you want to hold-on to the loser. How much more evidence do you need? You want to catch him actually having sex with another woman?
Time to kick his freeloading ass to the curb.
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