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writes:Hi, Just need some help with my cheating boyfriend. Im pretty sure he's been lying and cheating on me. I saw the girls facebook and his name is all over it. She talks about him a lot. I'm stuck right now. I was too upset to talk to him yesterday at his house and I just left. He stood up and called me to wait but I just couldn't. Now I miss him so much, I don't know what to do. I sent him a text ...."i'm so sad you cheated on me :( :(these are the texts he sent back:what are you talking about?I did not do anything.if you want to go on your own way, then say so.Gosh, i really love him and i don't want to leave him I don't think I'll be ok if i do :(What do i do? what do i do? what, what what
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (18 September 2011):
 Hi,If you love him so much stay with him. There's no shame, you decide what's best for you. Nobody have the right to judge you, only you know him well, know your relationship, and only you can decide what you think is best for you. Ok, you saw her Facebook and she talks a lot about him? His name is all over? Before you assume anything, give him a chance to explain. Maybe they are just friends, so she talks about him? I am pretty sure she likes your boyfriend, but doesn't mean he's cheating on you. It's not his fault this girl likes him. I understand that you couldn't talk to him that night. I've been in you situation a year ago, and did the same thing, left as fast as could. I was so shocked, upset, shaking. I couldn't think straight, I just cried for hours. Now, that you had some time to think about the situation, hopefully you feel more in control, the only way you can solve this is to talk to him. I've been in your shoes before, so getting angry, screaming, accusing him, pressuring him for answers will only make things worst. Think what's important here. Getting to the bottom, finding the truth. You need answers. So, I'll suggest to contact him, find a good place, make sure you are calm, and talk to him. Nicely, calm.... This is the only way you will get answers from him. Explain to him how you feel? Why you feel this way? And tell him what you saw on her Facebook. His name all over, and that she talks a lot about him. Ask him what's going on with this girl? If friends only? If he knows she has feelings for him? How close they are? How long? Etc. I am sure you have your own questions. Ask him everything you want to know. Explain to him that you feel betrayed by him, that you don't approve his friendship with this girl knowing she has more feelings for him than just friends. Explain that, even if he has no interest at all, by communicating with her frequently is allowing her to have feelings for him, giving her hope. Just don't make any conclusions yet, because you don't know the whole truth. I know it's hard, you feel overwhelmed, but stay strong... I am sure, and hope he can talk to you, and explain everything. Feel better, hope everything works out for you. Good luck
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reader, Red591 +, writes (18 September 2011):
 you don't even have proof he has done anything. Maybe this girl likes him but it isn't his fault. If he has cheated then ditch him but until you have solid evidence, don't accuse him of something like that. If I didn't do anything, and someone kept accusing me then eventually i would decide that they are too insecure for me and I would leave them. DOn't let this happen. Talk to him
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (18 September 2011):
 What other choice do you have? You stay with him and keep on constantly worrying if he's cheating or not.
Just because a girl's FB has his name on it, doesn't mean he's cheating. Are you really 41-50? Because a mature adult would wait till they had more evidence and not rely on FB which is not valid proof. Maybe if you saw private messages between them talking about having sexual relations, then ok you got something. But for now, you have nothing.
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