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writes:There is this guy who I really adore. We are very similar and all my friends think we should be together. I am pretty sure he likes me, but how can I be certain? I don't want to make a fool of myself asking him to be my boyfriend, but I still really want this to happen. If he doesn't like me then his friends will make me a laughing stock :( what do I do???? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2019): You said you are pretty sure he likes you. What makes you think he likes you? Only he can make you certain, and that is by telling you so.
Here's what you do. Don't approach him around his or your friends; or even talk about how you feel about him. If you think he likes you, he has to have shown you somehow. Otherwise, you're just imagining things.
You can't be too worried about what other people think of you; or be terrified of being laughed at. That's how people become insecure and lonely. Other people will keep you from ever being happy and sure of yourself.
If he talks to you, just keep talking and being friendly until he gets the nerve to show you more interest. Laugh at his jokes, talk about the things you both like; and just be comfortable when you're around each other.
Don't make him some kind of prize. You're a special person too! He should appreciate that.
If he's not doing much of anything to make you certain; and his friends aren't very nice to you, avoid him and his friends.
Don't imagine him being your boyfriend until you have the nerve to talk to him. Keep your friends and his friends out of your business. I'm not saying keep him a secret; I mean don't tell them every move you make or what you say.
I think he will be more comfortable and able to show you how he likes you; if they're all out of the picture. If he wants to keep you a secret, or acts as though he is ashamed of you. He's not a nice boy. That's a no-go.
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reader, Loxy511 +, writes (1 February 2019):
Don't try too hard - you will find in life that people who are supposed to be in your life will just be there naturally. That doesn't mean you can't give him a few helpful hints that you are interested, but let him notice you. Wear your hair differently or answer a question in class or something that could give you a talking point. He may just wander up to you saying 'Hey I like the new look' or whatever!Try not to be the loud crazy girl, pulling lots of attention - that will scare the poor boy off. Just be subtle, be friendly, be cute and like Fatherly Advice writes: show you are interested in similar things. We all love a good flirt - try it out! You might get a good response, or he may not react the way you wish, but it is all a learning curve and you will never know until you try. You will not be a laughing stock and if it doesn't go your way, whilst you may feel a little rejected at the time, everyone else will forget it and not even think about picking on you for it.
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reader, Fatherly Advice  +, writes (29 January 2019):
 Get interested in the things he is interested in. Participate in the clubs he is in. Go to the sports he plays. Treat him like a good friend.
Flirting is another way to test the waters. BE fun and playful, don't pout if he doesn't respond at once. Smile at him.
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