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writes:my boyfriend wants to have sex or at least do sexual stuff. But I'm not ready. He said he will wait and not pressure me to do anything, but I'm pressuring myself for him. I just don't know what to do. I do want sex but not right now. Reply to this Question
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (23 November 2008):
it's simple. just dont do it
you are obviously not ready for sex and if he does not back off you need to just say i dont want to do it. if he does not like that, then tough on his part. dont do it to please him. if you feel like you are pressuring yourself then it would be more of a bad chore then an amazing experience. wait untill you are older.
i do not understand why young kids want to jump into bed with eachother. it's like wait untill you are mature enough.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (23 November 2008):
 Honey, you are torn between your hormones and your common sense, and that's Normal! Of course! Of course we want sex! And our bodies are raging with hormones and curiosity at your age, and THAT makes us want sex! But sex makes babies, it comes with responsibilities, so anyone who jumps into having sex without thinking about ALL of the complications is quite foolish. You are smart to follow your own instincts and common sense.
Tell your boyfriend that you are very attracted to him, but you aren't ready. Just leave it at that. If he loves and respects you, he will wait. Most people don't have sex until 17 or 18, and if you google 'average age virginity' it also varies depending on your background as well. AND GOD FORBID, that doesn't mean that you should follow that pattern! If you aren't ready, you aren't READY! No, means no, and It's your body, so it's your rules. Listen to that inner voice, and wait until YOU are ready. XXX
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